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Got our first CS check from BM (after almost a year!)

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Submitted by Catlover on Mon, 05/18/2009 - 10:11am

Coincidentally it arrived a week after DH contacted our county agency for enforcement. BM is currently over 6month in arrears, and had not paid a dime since being court ordered back in Feb. So DH contacted the CS agency and requested enforcement for the CS owed us. It's not a lot of money, but hey.... it is the point after all. So literally one business week later the first payment magically appears. The irony in this whole situation is that when BM and DH split up DH was making ALOT more $$$. (As they have 50/50, he paid her CS).

SD sneaking items from our house to BM's house

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Submitted by Catlover on Fri, 05/08/2009 - 8:00am

For the last 2 years we've had a solid rule-with the exception of clothes and school items, nothing goes back and forth between our home and BM's home (the skids are with us 50/50.) This is due to the fact that stuff either 1) never comes home or 2) gets broken/stolen by the other kids in the house (BM's fiances kids who live w/them 50/50). We figure we're already forking out the $$$ for the skids wardrobes at BMs as they come home in clothes way too small and suspiciously the "nicer" clothes never return.

BM is taking SS on her EMT ambulance calls

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Submitted by Catlover on Tue, 05/05/2009 - 9:26pm

So DH and I just found out tonight that once again, BM who is an EMT for our county Ambulance service (yes I live in fear that someday I'll have to dial 911...but that's another story) and also works in as "volunteer firefighter" has been taking the 9 year old with her on her ambulance calls (she leaves him in the car unattended while she works on the scene of accident victims). The 11 year old is left at home alone. DH is livid. Even worse, she had blown a complete fit with our GAL stating that she had to have the kids on her days off, because of her 24 hour shifts.

Why am I so irritated when skids are home sick?

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Submitted by Catlover on Tue, 05/05/2009 - 10:07am

BM called today and told us SS is home sick throwing up/diarrhea etc (great...swine flu!!). The skids were supposed to come home today after school. Of course BM wanted me to take SS this morning. Thankfully DH said nope...bring him after school hours. Question is...I got really p***ed off. This is one issue that DH and I constantly fight over. Whenever skids are sick, DH is off to work, and BM is usually home (she works two days a week), and I am the one that is expected to take care of the skids.

BM is 6months in arrears for CS would you go after it?

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Submitted by Catlover on Wed, 04/29/2009 - 1:51pm

If your BM/EH was or is in arrears, what did you or would you do? Well today marks the day that BM is officially 6 months in arrears in CS due us. Granted it's not alot.... she only is supposed to pay $100 a month to us since DH's salary got drastically slashed (we have 50/50). She dragged her feet for 3 months, refusing to sign a stipulation, and then finally agreed to settle an hour prior to court. The judge signed the order in Feb, and we have yet to see a penny. She also per the agreement owes us arrears back to November 1.

I HATE DH's job - Need to vent

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Submitted by Catlover on Thu, 04/23/2009 - 9:29pm

After getting laid off from the airlines (DH is a pilot), he got a job flying charter aircraft. It pays 1/3 of what he made before (think almost federal poverty wages), and has him gone for days on end with little notice. Tonight was a perfect example. After being gone three days (and leaving me with the skids 9,11 and BD 1. He walks in the door tonight and says, "Hey, I just stopped in to change clothes. I have to head out again for another trip. I'll be back tomorrow." UGH.

Well I applied for a job......

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Submitted by Catlover on Wed, 04/22/2009 - 10:28pm

Keep your fingers crossed! I'm currently half way through my MBA program, and I also have a Masters in Social Work. I have worked in the Human Services field for the last 10 years. After BD was born, DH and I agreed that I would stay home w/her for a few years since DH made a great salary at his job. We had it all figured out and then BAM, DH got laid off. He now is earning one third of his previous income and his career prospects are slim right now (he's a pilot).

Finally someone else sees what BM really is!

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Submitted by Catlover on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 11:51am

DH and I went to SS's Parent teacher conference yesterday. BM usually schedules her own conference. SS it seems is worse than ever. Bullying other students, grades are slipping, and arguing w/ teacher in front of the class etc. His teacher is pulling her hair out due to his behavior. DH and I told teacher that we would address this on our end, but delicately stated that we could only control what happens in our home. We have been very careful not to speak negatively about BM to teachers because no matter how bad she is, we don't want them to be caught in the middle.

So tired of the BM worship!

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Submitted by Catlover on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 10:45am

The skids have really gotten worse with this lately. It seems like whatever we do (DH or I), somehow the skids feel the need to point out how much better BM is. For example, if we talk about going to Florida on vacation, then skids point out that BM is taking them to Florida (in a private jet or something else utterly ridiculous). We remodeled the kitchen, and skids were quick to point out that "Mom says yellow paint is ugly, Mom's stove has more burners or Mom's getting me a horse" UGH. For the love of God... if I have to hear another "MOM's so cool comment" I'm going to barf.

If you and SO didn't have skids......

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Submitted by Catlover on Mon, 04/13/2009 - 2:13pm

what would your relationship be like? I'm not talking about whether skids lived w/BM instead, I'm referring to if your SO didn't ever have kids prior to you. I think I fall into the trap of thinking that if DH hadn't ever had kids prior to me that our relationship would be a lot simpler. No BM drama, No guilt parenting, not feeling like I'm last among his endless list of priorities, perhaps even being able to schedule myself and BD around what we want to do instead of catering to Skids whims.

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