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Walking on eggshells around BM

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Submitted by Caitlin on Tue, 01/09/2007 - 3:35pm

So we finally found out that BM made SD an appointment for an evaluation at the clinic where she would attend day therapy from 9am-3pm Monday-Friday. Although I strongly feel I should be there, my fiance and I decided that the potential fall-out from BM would not be worth it. He will attend the evaluation with them and hopefully BM will not throw a fit about it. (She will definitely throw a fit if I dare show up.)

Update on SD's situation

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 01/04/2007 - 9:29am

Ok, so I'm starting a fresh blog because Janice was driven to tears from wading through the 50+ responses to get to the new posts! ;o)

I was very upset that SD was never admitted to the psychiatric hospital on Tuesday night, but now I have a little more information so I'm beginning to understand.

BM is at it in full force; I fear for SD's safety!

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Submitted by Caitlin on Tue, 01/02/2007 - 7:38pm

Wow. Things just keep getting worse and worse. BM called my fiance today at 4:00 to cancel their weekly Daddy & Daughter dinner (so what else is new?) and demanded to instead meet privately in person to discuss "some issues" because SD had had "a bad night" last night. My fiance insisted that if she needed to discuss something to please do it in writing. She threw her usual tantrum when she saw she wasn't getting her way, but he stuck to his guns and repeated that she should send him an email.

Unofficial "stepmom"

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Submitted by Caitlin on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 11:08am

As anyone who has read my blogs already knows, BM has a real problem accepting SD's life with her dad, me and her baby sister (and new sib on the way!) She is very insecure and jealous and tries to fill her head with nonsense all the time. Typical parental alienation. She hates us, so she wants her daughter to hate us too.

Photo album for SD

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Submitted by Caitlin on Fri, 12/22/2006 - 10:34am

SD told me a few weeks ago that at the top of her Christmas wishlist was a photo album with both her families in it. She so desperately wants us all to get along and I think she thought of this as a way to get us talking and cooperating.

Here we go again! Does this BS ever end?

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Submitted by Caitlin on Tue, 12/19/2006 - 2:19pm

My fiance is supposed to go see SD for their weekly dinner tonight. Less than 3 hours before he's supposed to leave, BM calls and changes the plan. SD has her band concert tomorrow night and god forbid he be allowed to see her two nights in a row, so BM said instead of meeting tonight, he could have an early dinner with SD before the concert tomorrow, then they could all go over TOGETHER to the school.

This is wrong on so many levels.

First, changing the plan with just a few hours' notice is just rude and inconsiderate.

Controlling BM strikes again

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Submitted by Caitlin on Thu, 11/30/2006 - 11:37am

SD is on swim team and when she has away meets, she is supposed to ride the bus with the team. Well, we asked the coach if on our weekends, we could take her directly to the pool, because we don't live in the area and it is hard on our family to drive from point A-B 45 minutes, then point B-C 30-60 minutes, when we could just go point A-C 30-45 minutes, not to mention we have a few conflicts. Coach said, "sure, no problem, just let us know when that will be happening."

Oh boy, this one's a doozie

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Submitted by Caitlin on Wed, 11/29/2006 - 2:56pm

So BM calls my fiance yesterday an hour before he's to leave to pick up SD for their weekly dinner to say that they're at the ER because SD has a HEAD INJURY and that she'll have to cancel. Now, this is the FOURTH 'head injury' SD has had in the past year or two, all on days when she is to be with us (plus who knows how many that we don't hear about?) The first 3 times, I was genuinely concerned, but this time I just had this distinct feeling that something was fishy.

Conflicts between visitation schedule and social schedule

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Submitted by Caitlin on Tue, 11/28/2006 - 1:58pm

What do you do when it's your stepkid's weekend with you and you're invited to an adults-only party? With us, I either stay home or go alone because my fiance doesn't feel right going out and leaving SD when we have so little time with her as it is, and I totally agree.

I guess I'm just feeling a bit resentful to have to turn down yet another holiday party invitation because I don't want to go without my hubby and we can't change visitation. (On a side note, I hate that word, because SD LIVES with us, even if it's only 2 weekends out of the month.)

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