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BM asking for money

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SD8 lives with us full time during the school year and visits her mother in the vacations. This has been the arrangement for about 18months. The first 12 months my husband agreed to pay BM money every month to help her 'get on her feet' and also to sweeten the deal as we moved away and SD came with us. BM agreed to all of this. So last summer BM was still receiving her money. This summer however all of a sudden a mere few weeks before SD is going to see BM, BM says that she cannot afford the summer camp she was relying on taking SD to so that she had some child care while she is at work.

Well done, you had sex and you were lucky enough that your body produced a baby - wooty woot for you

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"I'm proud of many things in my life, but nothing beats being a mother"

This was on my facebook feed - is it the ultimate GU slogan?

There must be others that you've seen. Which are the worst offenders?

Summer of freedom...what would you do?

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SD7 is off to spend the summer with her BM in a few days so in theory (unless BM throws any spanners in the works) my husband and I will have 2 months child free.

We are thinking of starting to try to expand our family in the autumn with our own kids, so this potentially could be our last childless summer for a long while. What would you do with a child free summer?

Our thoughts are to get out and enjoy the city more, I want to do some art projects and maybe take a break away somewhere if we've the money. What would you do if you had two months of summer child free?

Grateful to have SD with me today.

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Well SD7 earned her keep today when I locked us out of the house!

I locked us out of the house this morning and of course my husband (at work) didn't have his keys on him either. So after calling the landlord, getting no response and leaving a voicemail message we went to get restorative hot drinks. Then back to the house to try the windows, and fortunately I was able to open one and SD, being the great climber that she was got in through the window and opened the door for me. Phew.. She saved us the cost of a locksmith, not sure if I would have gotten in as easily as her!

Why do I have to teach a 6 year old how to apologize properly? - Vent

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My husband is pretty good about most stuff, but he hasn't taught SD how to properly apologize, it is usually a half embarrassed apology given while hiding behind somebody with a smirk on her face. He claims she smirks because she is nervous: i don't give a fuck. That child will apologize properly to me this evening if she has to stay in time out all night. Beepers going...back to try once more for a sincere apology...am i asking too much of a 6 year old?

Poll - Delete and block or ignore and store?

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Just reading 4evers blog and wondered what the most popular tactics are when it comes to BS communications directly from bio-parents to step parents? Delete and block or ignore and store?

Personally I have every vile text message from BM saved for future reference and am reluctant to block BM as I want evidence that she is a crazy bitch. Luckily for me she has calmed down a lot recently so I haven't heard from her in a long time. Just wondering what you all prefer to do when you get a crazy ass email or text?

Custody papers filled...we're all moving!

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My husband got all the custody papers signed by the judge this morning so we are definitely going to be taking SD7 with us when we move out of state in two weeks time. I'm really pleased all the paperwork is sorted out and we know what is happening. I know that SD will miss her mom but she will be much better off with us and we won't have to worry about her.

Advice needed for parenting plans when moving to a different state

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We are moving out of state (5 hour plane ride away) and SD is coming with us. BM it seems has used up all of her luck and favors from friends and family and has no place to move to as she is being evicted. That and the lure of 6 months CS for having a golden uterus has persuaded her to let SD move with us.

Halloween - is it worth a fight over?

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I really can't make up my mind over this one, apathy is settling in but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth, so I'd love some input from you all.

In my husbands parenting plan for SD7 Halloween is BM day every year (because she is essentially a 14 year old child). I was not brought up to celebrate Halloween and don't understand it or the mentality behind why adults enjoy it so much (kids I can understand get candy...why wouldn't they love it).

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