Why do I have to teach a 6 year old how to apologize properly? - Vent
My husband is pretty good about most stuff, but he hasn't taught SD how to properly apologize, it is usually a half embarrassed apology given while hiding behind somebody with a smirk on her face. He claims she smirks because she is nervous: i don't give a fuck. That child will apologize properly to me this evening if she has to stay in time out all night. Beepers going...back to try once more for a sincere apology...am i asking too much of a 6 year old?
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My wife is a card-carrying
My wife is a card-carrying "friend" parent. She doesn't want to upset her best buds by expecting them to apologize for their rude behavior.
NO STAND YOUR GROUND ...
NO STAND YOUR GROUND ... NOTHING IS WORSE THAN BEING AROUND A CHILD WHO HAS NO MANNERS!!!! I HAVE STOPPED GOING AROUND SOME OF MY BEST FRIENDS BECUASE THEIR CHILDREN SUCK & IT REALLY WORKS MY NERVES. I USED TO BLAME THE CHILD BUT IN ACTUALITY IT IS A REFELCTION OF THE PARENTS. A 6 YEAR OLD IS OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW TO APOLOGIZE CORRECTLY AND IF SHE CANT SEEM TO FIGURE IT OUT THEN SHE MIGHT NEED AN ASS WHOOPIN TO HELP HER
HOPE THIS HELPS!
and she's still in time
and she's still in time out...DH is home....i think he has gone in there to "reason" with her or whatever bullshit.
Ugh I totally feel you - I
Ugh I totally feel you - I deal with this BS every time I get the skids!!
I used to back down when he would get on to me about disciplining HIS kids - that I finally just said the hell with it and do it my way and if he doesn't like it then he needs to take them to a hotel on the weekends when he has them. I will NOT have any child mine or skids disrespect ANY adult especially me or their father! He really should go in there and get on her ass about the way she is treating you NOT reasoning with her - he is the adult and she is six.
Got my apology finally. He
Got my apology finally. He didn't reason with her fortunately but wow that was tough. And I'm pissed that I had to do it all because my husband has never made her properly apologize before. Grrrrr. I just hope it won't have to be repeated.
Good for you. You actually
Good for you. You actually parented that child and taught them a valuable life skill.
Absolutely good for you. At
Absolutely good for you. At least your husband didn't attempt to reason.
I haute apologies that are
I haute apologies that are like that, but also I hate them when is like this too:
Dh bringing sd down the hallway, I can here her screaming and crying. She's hysterically crying about how she's just tired and had a hard day. She gets in front of me crying so hard that her face is red and she hyperventilating. She then between breaths says "I-I-I-I'm s-s-sorry" I look to dh with a "Wtf is this" face. Then he explains that she is sorry. Dh later asks me if I'm OK (meaning he knows I didn't really approve the apology). I explain to dh that she doesn't feel bad for her actions, therefore is not a real apology. He gets defensive and retorts that every time DDS do something wrong I don't let them cry about it.
My feelings on crying differ greatly from dh's. 99%of the time when kids cry, it's out of self pity. There are some kid's out there who have sympathy and empathy for others, but it's taught. Sd has never been made to feel empathy or sympathy for other people. She is all about "I had a bad day, people were mean to me, they called me *insert her name, but use country accent*, I'm just tired, it's been a long day" not once had she ever said, "I did this and I feel bad that I hurt your feelings, I will try harder to never do this again." She's never once said anything remotely close to that.
Keep in mind my sd is turning 11,she's far from being 6.