I received a mothers day card from SD6 with some words written from her as well as a note written by BM saying thanks for being a great step mom (but not signed by BM). I also received a small gift made by BM, but picked out by SD. I can't decide what to make of it, if BM did it at SD's insistence or if BM is starting to recognize me and my role in SD's life and respect that?

I last saw BM 6 months ago when she assaulted me and I called the cops on her. Since then I've avoided seeing her. I did go and collect SD the other day with my husband but I stayed in the car, even just seeing her across the parking lot made my stomach turn. I hate that woman. But maybe I should start to try to see her in a different light? I think I will continue as things are and wait for her to make another move towards reconciliation before assuming that she is happy with my existence.

Any thoughts?