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Submitted by Anne Summers on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 7:16pm

Hi All,

As some of you may have figured out, visiting ST is not an every day occurence for me. Thus I have to "catch up" on all of the happenings. I have noticed, over the year or so I have been here, that there are days when everything seems to be in an uproar over something---crazy anon posters or whatever.

I just wanted to take a little time today to say thanks for the little moments that get me through the rough days. When I first discovered ST I was at my wit's end, upset and crying a lot. However just by reading posts and occassionally commenting---you all have helped me tremendously!

I also wanted to let you know that most things are better on the home front---mainly due to my "letting go" and letting DH take over the BM/SK situation. I am trying to get into my own version of the SM/Wife role.

This has included me slipping into more of a passive (laid-back) and playful role with SD. Thus I shared an awesome Friday night with my DH and SD. We all went to a movie at the theater with popcorn/candy and the works. These nights are a treat for us as a family. Once we came home I read my SD her favorite book. The one that she won't let anyone else read to her because they "don't do the voices." Wink What was truly fun was after I read the book she read another book, with the same character, to me. And yes---she "did the voices"! It was absolutely adorable that she was having so much fun trying to imitate me. Biggrin

So, today, I thank Heaven for these type of moments. I also wish you all similar moments in your own lives.

Take care,
Anne

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Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 7:19pm

I love this. It's especially rewarding, isn't it, to see the kids trying to imitate you? Then you know, you've made a real difference in their lives!

Congratulations!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

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Submitted by Snarky on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 7:33pm

Letting go can be so rewarding! In the beginning of my whole ordeal I found myself acting like a spoiled brat...."this is my house too, she can't do that, I won't do this...." and trying to control everything. Focusing on the negative constantly was making my life so difficult! My DH and I talked and talked, fortunately we've had counseling straight from the beginning because we knew this was a tough situation to start a relationship on; so, we were able to come to agreements and he lovingly reveal my childish behaviors (and of course me to him, teehee). I grew so much as a person because he was willing to understand where I was coming from AND he was willing to listen to his areas in need of improvement as well.

Now, for the most part, I have fun with the kids and get to do things with them that their mother doesn't do, it's fabulous! SD 10 and I sat and colored together yesterday, she was so happy because "no one else will color with me". I get a twinge in my heart when they hug me and say "I love you"; they love me because I love them, not because I'm dad's wife, just because.....

BTW: Stick.....LOVE the tag line!!!

Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils ... - Louis Hector Berlioz