Ok, so lately I have realized that I am content and basically happy. Strange thing is I guess I finally had a little ephinany. I figured if DH (or BM for that matter) is not going to actually fight for (not just argue) the multitude of complaints that they throw back and forth at each other in the four year old like banter about SD----THEN, why should I care about their rants and raves?

Why should I be suckered in every single time when DH gets all upset about things concerning SD. Like when he gets all bent out of shape that BM will not grant him more visitation time with SD but then when SD is over at our house for visitation DH chooses not to spend time with her. This past visitation period DH & I had talked about taking the kids to a movie that was showing on Sunday afternoon (only one showing). However when Sunday comes DH decides not to go with me and the kids. Why you ask??? TV and NASCAR were more important than him spending time with his family. When we got home, he was still watching the race in our bedroom. On the next day, which was a day off for all of us, he stayed in our bedroom most of the day playing online games with his work buddies. Then about an hour or so before SD was supposed to go to BM's home, DH tells this guy that "I better go spend time with my daughter before she leaves." Like it was important to DH. I guess I thought if it was important than he should have spent most, if not all, of the weekend/holiday with his family. It was this, among other things, that just made me realize that all this SD/family talk just something for him to blab about to other people. It seems to give his life 'meaning', ya know? Oh, just to let you know---I might be a little harsh on DH---he did spend most of Saturday with all of us. I guess I just feel like one day out of three just isn't good enough though. Maybe I'm crazy, who knows?

BTW, SD was a complete joy to be around this past visit. Sunday SD, my son and I all piled into the theatre together and had a blast. We also all went shopping after the movie. It was a really fun.

As for the BM, well I think she's all wishy-washy (like DH) when it comes to all those idle threats and comments about going back to court and what-have-you. Ya know? Honestly, I think BM knows that DH won't go back to court. DH is just as wishy washy about threats as the BM. Neither will back up what they say.

(((Personally, I think they are both control freaks in the situation but neither have the ability to be in control. Me, if I'm going 'threaten' (per se) than I am going to back it up 100%.)))

Plus with the BM, I guess I'm just sick of her. Not in a personal type of way, but just along the lines of the whole court order/contempt issues and such. Like for instance, their court order states that each parent is supposed to pay a certain percent for certain expenses for the SD. However, BM refuses to pay about 38 bucks for her part of SD's last major expense, which BTW we paid almost 95 bucks for our portion. We always pay for these type of SD's expenses faithfully, but BM is wailing and moaning over less than 40 bucks?!?!? Ok, lady, I think their are more important things in life to throw tantrums over---and this is not it!

Anywho, I guess I'm a little over the drama and I don't want to have anything to do with it anymore. BTW, I'm not talking about ceasing my personal relationship with DH or SD---or even my occasional 'H&Gs' to the BM. I'm talking about the crayon fighting and the situation that surrounds it. You know what I mean?

Thanks for lending an ear---or a computer screen in this case.