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OT - Anyone heard of "Co-Regulation?"

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I googled "Co-Regulation" and see nothing but positive articles, lots of Parent/Child relationship stuff and some Partner/Spouse stuff. But nothing about what I vibe is going on with a friend of mine and her partner. The partner tells my friend they need to "Co-Regulate" each other but to me it looks like "Partner" is looking to manipulate and control my friend via these f*cking needy-as-hell "Co-Regulation" demands. 

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ExSS Nastygram (Blocked 2022 text msg)

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Got a new phone yesterday, and while customizing settings this morning, saw that I had 9 blocked text msgs from exH that transferred over, and 2 blocked text msgs from exSS, now almost 24. Stupid me, I read'em.

The msgs from exH were all "I miss you" flavor. The two from exSS23, who got kicked out from my home in late August 2018 (as documented here) were:

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OT - True Crime Narcissists Rabbit Hole

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Mostly Off-Topic but somewhat relevant...

For anyone familiar with the Adelson murder case regarding victim Dan Markel (RIP Dan) in Florida, the jail phone calls from last month AFTER Charlie Adelson was convicted of the murder (=4th conviction after the three he paid to have his ex-brother in law Dan Markel murdered) are being published. It's like driving by a car crash - knowing you shouldn't look but unable to look away. 

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Freedom Dream

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This morning (yesterday morning now as it's 1:37am) I dreamt I was finally free & done with the divorce, something about getting untrappd from a huge labrynth house & after that, went with with some friends in a parking lot near the ocean. But it was night & friends wanted to leave so I got out & ran thru this sand that was near all these strangers who were too lazy to use the public restroom - they had shit all over the sand but blamed others, pretending it wasn't theirs.

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Divorce ... need encouragement

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Nutshell is that I have to pay a forensic accountant to formally valuate my various retirement accounts... to find out how much I have to pay STBXH thanks to my state's Community Property law & my stupidity for becoming STBX's 3rd wife. I'm choking on the stupid.

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Parasitic Vampire: Need ST Input

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Divorce update and request for your insights/suggestions:

It's become evident STBXH isn't done taking, taking, taking like the lying entitled vampiric parasite he is, was, and always will be. He's got multiple divorces under his belt (all THEIR fault!), while I am untrained and inexperienced in this "community property" arena. 

He's lying about numerous assets & I don't know what to do or say to my attorney. I am not going to lie, and my disclosures were 100% based in truth, with exacting documentation to back it up. 

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STBXH's Drive-By's CONTINUE

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Original blog about this:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/stbxh-doing-drive-bys-272685

Neighb keeps seeing my STBXH drive by, and texts me to let me know (and those are just the times she's seen it). I've been sending screenshots to my divorce attorney just to keep a record. I've also told mutual friends (the non-Flying Monkey type!) and it just happened again today where my neighb saw him. 

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