What is your 8 year old capable of doing on their own? My SD has a shorter list of what she IS capable of doing independently than what she can't. 
 

Ive been working with her to get her to do basic life skills by herself... opening the car, buckling her seatbelt, holding her own backpack, brushing her teeth without being told, washing her hands without being told, getting her own shower ready, brushing her own hair, cutting her own food, cleaning up after herself. Is this normal? Because I can only compare my niece who could do all this on her own years ago!

AM I WRONG!? AM I GOING CRAZY!?