Is anyone else dealing with a failure to launch? My SS26 and SD20 don’t seem capable of living on their own or taking care of themselves. 

Hello all moms and dads, 

First and foremost I would like to thank you all for having this amazing support group. 

Okay quick back story .... 

Engaged to my finance  who has 2 boys from a previous marriage, SS 9 and SS 6. 

I have 4 from my previous marriage, 13, 12, 9, and 7. 

I have had major issues with my SS 9 and SS6, their BM babies them to high heaven. She still dresses them, feeds them yes spoon feeds, and makes their lunches. 

I’m expected to do the same when they are here. I said hell to the NO!

Hello, I'm 29 and have been a stepmother since I was 20 to a boy and a girl.  My stepson is 14 and over the last year or so has changed dramatically.  It has not been an easy journey and over time I want to dicuss and share stories with others who understand.  The issue I'm going to bring up today is CLOTHING.

Some times I wonder if I could go back in time and decide to not move forward in a serious relationship w a man who shares a child w another woman, would I? I was only 22 at the time.. but our chemistry was so palpable it was a whirlwind first month of dating. Love came quickly and easily. I had no idea what was in my (4yr) future, didn't have online resources for help, certainly had no friends w experiences. 
 

I'm so tired....

ive been with my bf for 4 years and I'm at the point where I'm ready for marriage. His SS and I have the best relationship and he loves me dearly. Although I will never like the way he was conceived (1 night stand) we're still amicable and have a good schedule w his bio mother. 
 

Bf is nearing 30 and I'm in my mid 20s. He thinks the issue lies w financial aspects but I just don't understand that bc nothing much would change. 

I'm so tired....

ive been with my bf for 4 years and I'm at the point where I'm ready for marriage. His SS and I have the best relationship and he loves me dearly. Although I will never like the way he was conceived (1 night stand) we're still amicable and have a good schedule w his bio mother. 
 

Bf is nearing 30 and I'm in my mid 20s. He thinks the issue lies w financial aspects but I just don't understand that bc nothing much would change. 

Wow! I wasn't expecting to get so much feedback so soon! Before I go down the route of explaining my background, I'd just like to clarify a few things. Thank you for pointing out that "coexisting" was probably the wrong term to use, but in the future  I'll explain situations where them being near one another may be important. Secondly, I was never married to my ex. We had a child together, that's it. Other than being the mother of my son, she holds no value to me. So when I say wife, she's my 1st and only wife.

Hi I'm new here! I’d really appreciate some help and advice on my situation bc I have no one that can relate! 

Hi there! I'm brand new here. I'm also a first time mom to a beautiful daughter who just turned 11 months old. But with becoming a mother, I also became a step mother. In which I struggle with.

What are different things you guys did and maybe still do to bond with your skids?

What has their treatment of you been like?

How has your relationship with them changed over the years as they've gotten older?

Did any of you end up genuinely loving your skids and did they express genuine love for you in return?

If you could go back in time, is there anything you would've done differently?