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Submitted by frustrated 1 on Thu, 11/29/2012 - 3:28pm

I've just been thinking about my relationship and asking myself is it worth it? And the fact that he dh has 3 other adult children. I'm already feelin like I'm number 3 if the other children ever decided to move in state with dear old dad I'll fall so far off the chart list that it won't be funny. I believe that if I had it to do over again I'd choose a man that didn't have any children. Its not worth it. Hindsight is 20/20. Had I known then what I know now....and all those cliches. Things just feel so unfair to me but still workin the disengaged angle and like I said I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Any advice or wisdom would be greatly appreciated Smile

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Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 11/29/2012 - 4:22pm

The only thing I can offer are hugs and offer a cyber shoulder to cry on. Message me is you ever want to chat. Smile

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Submitted by Sunflower on Thu, 11/29/2012 - 7:30pm

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Submitted by Sunflower on Thu, 11/29/2012 - 7:32pm

Sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself. If you are not really a priority to your H then maybe its time to get out. I am all for counseling but understand that if your SO doesn't want to change or cannot see the error of his ways; you are fighting a battle that will never be won. Divorces are never pretty and ending a relationship is not something many of us look forward to however there is always light at the end of the tunnel. I am newly divorced (2years) and I don't regret it for a min. I miss his kids but it wasn't enough for me to be miserable for the rest of my life with XH. Kids grow up and move out then its just the two of you. Will you be happy in your current position until then? These are some of things to really search your soul and ask yourself.
After my divorce I enrolled in school and will be graduating soon. I feel stronger than before and I feel like I accomplished something. I also now have a guy in my life that understands what respect and appreciation is (he has no kids). Take some time alone and think about this. No matter what your age you always need to do what is right for you. Staying together "for the kids" is not a good option. My parents did that and they did more damage than good. If you are unhappy it will eventually trickle down into other parts of your life that you never intended.