Besides this crap with "the friend", now I come home to find that OSD had called the house while BD16 was on the phone...BD saw who it was and didn't pick up. OSD is outright mean to my BDs because she hates me. I'm furious - one of the twin SD then called and chewed out BD about not answering the phone. How dare she call MY house and tell MY daughter that she needs to answer the phone. She doesn't even live here. What a double standard in this house...it's okay for skids to not pick up the call waiting when it's my parents (and they are not in good health), but my kids and I are supposed to answer the phone when OSD calls? Give me a break.

Update: This felt SO GOOD! The twinSD showed up. DH tried to talk to her about the phone call and she got pissed. I, for the first time, went outside and at first, calmly tried to talk to her about it. Then it got heated...she went from the topic at hand of how rude she was to BD to how rude I am because I won't allow DH's OSD and gkids to see him (which is a crock - OSD only comes around when she needs something). It felt so good to get in her face....I'm really intimidated by her...as much as I was shaking, I stood my ground, and when she started getting a little psycho, I called DH over. The other twinSD (who I adore) was there, and we had a few words. She got upset and said something to the effect of "I now see you differently" (besides that I live in a nuthouse, this was blown out proportion because it wasn't the OSD calling but the gkid wanting to talk to the "good" twin.)

The "good" twin and I had a long talk - she's the only rational BD DH has. We talked for a long time, and I told her about the double standard and how much I hated living here, and how I was tired of feeling like I don't belong. I told her it's like going to a party with a group of people because one person invited you. When you get to the party, you realize the other guests don't want you there. That's my life.

Deep down I know I should have been the bigger person, but I felt so empowered to get in her face...I've been quiet and been a doormat for too long.