Saturday the 3 law students appointed to represent SS7 are coming for a home visit. I'm looking for any advise on how to deal with them.

We have met them once at their offices. It was the first time, other than the evaluation, that somebody dealing with our case actually wanted to talk to me, the lower than dirt step-mom. They actually seemed to get me and genuinely seemed to care what I had to say. It has been so hard to not be able to stand up for myself in this case as I am legally a nobody. I raise SS every single day, he calls and thinks of me as 100% his mom, I handle all of the arrangements for anything SS or Dh needs, basically I do everything and BM does nothing but not care about SS or abuse him when she goes around him.

This whole situation has been so hard on us that it has affected my physical and mental health and made our entire relationship unrecognizable from the happy, incredibly romantic, sweet one we had before. Dh even wants us to go to therapy to help us learn how to help each other through these tough times and not turn against each other.

I heard a great quote today. "People say that a child deserves both parents, but sometimes a parent doesn't deserve to have a child." That is exactly the situation we're in. My SS has 2 amazingly loving, selfless parents (Dh and me) who he absolutely adores. He even told me for his birthday this year that all he wanted was to have our family. All this kid talks about it us being a family even if we're just driving down the street he sings about how happy he is that he has his whole family for the ride. BM is just that, a womb donor. She abused him his whole life and simply does not care about him. She is not fighting for him, but merely fighting against us.

The G.A.L.s should be able to see how much better we are than her. I went to the best private schools in the state from 1st-12th then went on to one of the top 50 colleges in the country. I was going to go to law school, but I got in a severe car accident at the end of my last semester in college and barely finished. Both of my parents are well respected attorneys in their fields. I am very charismatic and articulate. BM barely made it out of a terrible public high school. She says "aint" and "mines". She once told me "SS aint your son, he's mines." She once argued with us in court over us wanting him to go to a better school saying "a school is a school." She is unemployed and lives with her boyfriend at his mom's house over 40 miles away from the son "she loves so very much."

I have been busy cleaning and organizing the house. I have also been putting up several collage pictures frames of us doing all the fun family things that we do. This kids has an amazing family life that is complete. He is not lacking anything in his life. Having any contact with her only brings him down to her trashy, dumb level. Just because she gave birth to him doesn't give her the right to destroy him. Right?!

How honest should we be with the G.A.L.s? Should we/would it help if we explain how this situation causes so much trouble for us as a family? SS's behavior, sleep patterns, etc. Our marriage, possibly starting counseling, etc. Do we present them with the evidence of how BM doesn't care and just assume they can see it as proof? Or do we tell present the evidence and explain that it proves she doesn't care? BM is incredibly manipulative and a compulsive liar. She has already turned the hearing officer against us playing the innocent victim role, but luckily due to psychological testing, the evaluator sees right through her. How can we make sure they don't fall for her shit?