All this step family crap and I think I'm done with my marraige. Too many fights over the 17 SS. Mind you we have 3 others too, mine are 24D 22S and he has 19S all out of house thank god! SS lost his mom 7 yrs ago so we are only parents to him even tho hewill be adult in a few months. He has some sort of autism, in therapy now. But DH ignored everything about it,his whole life apparantly, now we have an almost 18 yr old still in 10 grade, no friends, wont even take showers, brush teeth, change clothes, or eat without us telling him, nver leaves the house,have to fight with him to do the dishes,take trash out, his only worries in the world, turns into raging no privacy EVER> I am done. Oh and he cant even tell you the months of the year. And DH and SS gang up on ME. I have been trying to get him help for yrs seeing that there were issues but he would not do anything,just yell at me and tell me my kids are F**d up, who cares if he is failing school, SS is so arrogant and lazy and it is ruining my life. I dont know how to let go, and work on marraige, I think my marraige is over, I dont even like him anymore. the thought of having to keep living like this for yrs to come is not appealing. This is my 2nd marraige and had no idea step parenting would be this hard. From day one he was hard on my kids to get out of the house. Myson this my daughter that, always yelling,, life was bad from the I do's and we all moved in together. I didnt see this coming. resentment runs deep. Help! Now to make matters worse, we are living in Europe for a yr so add that to all the stress. I want to just get on a plane and not look back. You thought you had it bad LOL. Well its all in the perceiving issnt it?? Or is it ??