Defetly avoided that statement a few minutes ago and had to dive into my safetey net, is actually more appropriate for the bridal blog I joined, not really a step family issue but brides dont cuss as much for some reason

We had the legal wedding this January and are planning our big party for the family (INAWEEK!AAAAAACK!) and his mom is wheel chair bound. Addendum, his mom is a depressed suffering widow who has made horrible mistakes with her financial and medical life and is passively committing suicide with diabedes and diet and Ive had the joy of watching it happen for our entire relationship. A decent portion of our wedding budget had to go into building recent amenities for her in her own home, and shes insisting on giving some of it back to us as a cash gift for the wedding, leaving us in the awkward position of taking money she probably doesnt have and will likely go to something she needs help to pay for anyway. Hes in a horrible place about it because in addition to meeting my family who (are also completely nuts, if you think yours isnt, youre the crazy one) dont make mistakes like that and prepare for life instead of get suprized by it, and having the same vantage of watching her slowly die like I have, its HIS mother. She was just recently put off her feet forever by her disease, and by her life choices.

I love her dearly, and she has to be at our wedding, but I had to get over a princess moment yesterday when we realized the ceremony location I had all picked out and perfect - she cant easily get to. Shes the only one. Now the reception area is causing an issue, and yet again, shes the only one. my near 100 year old grandparents are fine, SHE isnt. And hes exhibiting his stress over planning, running, and hosting (on property and in facilities we own) a wedding by snapping at me when I get grouchy this (prepare thyselves, nice people, Im venting and I have a base vocabulary) crippled dunce is causing us to make all these adjustments and allowances. We talked through it and calmed down and have gone back to a previous idea, its just PISSING ME THE HELL OFF. And she just got a new mechanical chair and is all excited about it and simply HAS to bring it, when it would be a hell of a lot easier to just stick with the hand push the whole time, because she can take three steps to get in and out of buildings, and someone will be with her to get the chair in, its just hard to say no to your mommy. Sigh.

Fortunately we're just now bickering over the wedding, which is impressive because we love bickering, and for some screwball reason he reacted to marraige quite well, and our step child issues have significantly improved over the past year. I think a big part of that is that weve been at it for years so its been long enough time for improvement in general, and SS recently hit puberty and started talking to everybody, including dearest daddy, the same way hes been talking to me, and golly they dont seem to like that! Gee SM you were right!! He is a total ass!! Shocking. So marraige, at least the first year, has been copasetic. Im sure I'll be running in here some time soon, with some new drama and emotional dump, but from my last post to now, peace and happiness have reigned supreme. Weird. . . I fear that which I dont undrestand. . .