An update on SD,
SD had moved to different state to be with a man,(all of 1 month, we helped her move) she is now "homesick" and is coming home,SS had to go get her,My hubby would have went too if prior committments had to force him to stay here.It has been my experience with SD that she will tell her father and I what she "thinks" we want to hear.(she says she wants to go to "school" back home,my instincts are telling me she is trying to get daddy to put out the money) we have already shelled out the money for a semester in Jr College,for her to skip classes and drop one course because it was "too hard". What does she think Nursing school will be like? My hubby has told her(without consulting me) that she can move in with us,along with baby.I asked him why didn't he discuss it with me first,he said because he knew she wouldn't move in, because she could not afford the rent! (I charge SS $50.00 a month,as a way of teaching him responsibility) that was a dig at me I suppose! He said now she is going to have to live with her mother.Is he so blind,that he dosen't think she wants to live with her mother?.(of course she does, she has a built in babysitter, and there are no rules to live by)by the way, BM is on her 3rd marriage to a man whom she manipulates and spends his money, she has him so broke that they have had everything repossessed,they now have to live in an old broken down house,he has had to sell off just about everything he has ever owned,including his land just to keep BM happy,(she refuses to work,or if she does get pressured to work, she makes sure it won't be for long)I just told my hubby that as far as I am concerned, if SD moves in, my son and I move out. SD will have to do alot of proving before I will lift a finger to help her,actions speak louder than words, and so far she has yet to make one move.She can talk til she's blue in the face, I want to see action.So,now what? My husband says not to worry, everything will work out,but I don't have any faith left to put in that girl!