You are here

quick question for anybody, nothing subject-related, or even deserving a response,

Marie Antionette's picture

Submitted by Marie Antionette on Sat, 10/30/2010 - 12:57am

So, Ive seen a couple posts now where members have mentioned they have either experienced or witnessed negative interactions between other members. Im curious, Im not out here as much as Id like, but everything Ive seen is typically supportive, pleasantly snarky-funny, formless (just saying something to say something, which I greatly appreciate!!!), intuitive, experienced, wise, etc. Ive gotten nothing but friendly or helpful responses from everybody so far, and (as far as I know) I havent cheezed anybody off. Am I miss-reading? Am I just not in the cool kid club yet? Totally knew it. It was the shabob haircut wasnt it? Shouldve known the stylist was BSing me, this doesnt set my eyes off at all. . .

Also, am I the only grown ass woman who cant watch scary movies and as a result has to go and dither online putting innane posts on a blog she joined months ago during a moment of emotional instability, so as not to pee the bed and keep FDH awake with a nightlight on?

Comments

Milomom's picture

Submitted by Milomom on Sat, 10/30/2010 - 8:34am

Hi Marie Antoinette!

No, you didn't "do" anything to anyone. I'm in the same boat - I don't get to log on to StepTalk often enough to "catch" the days where there's a lot of tension/dissention between the posters. I always miss the good stuff!! lol. No actually, I'm glad I miss it. I have had enough drama over the years with BM/skids that I don't need to add any to my life. Lately, my life has been fairly drama-free and I want to keep it that way.

No, it wasn't your haircut (lol), so don't yell at your hairdresser. I agree with DPW, I think your post is adorable.

So I hope you "stick around" here - I can personally say that StepTalk has not only saved my relationship with my BF of 6.5 years, it has also saved my SANITY. I swear you start to feel like you're CRAZY in dealing with the BM, the skids and all that is related. Then you meet all the wonderful people and you realize that YOU'RE NOT ALONE, YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT GOES THROUGH THESE THINGS!

I have received such amazing advice & support from all of the women here (and men, too, not to leave out Rags & Old Dart & whatever other male members - sorry). Back in the "earlier" days of my relationship with my BF, I had NO CLUE how to handle BM and her selfish, greedy, money-grubbing ways, her CONSTANTLY calling my BF for no reason, etc.... I had never dated a divorced man before, nevermind anyone with kids - and none of my friends or family had, either. I had no one to turn to for advice and I basically had no idea how to "navigate" my way around this whole crazy step world. I swear, they should sell MAPS for this shyte!! lol!!

Fast forward 6.5 years later in my relationship, I found StepTalk about a year ago - and nowadays, thanks to the advice of people here, things are much more drama-free in my life - and I'm soooo relieved.

Good luck Marie Antoinette! We are all here to help you when you need us - for advice, for support or sometimes even when you just need to VENT it all out - we're all here for you!

Last-Wife's picture

Submitted by Last-Wife on Sat, 10/30/2010 - 10:50am

tell your dear one to buy a cow. Then people pay attention to you. LOL And no- you are not the only one. I have not turned my TV on all week for the fear I might accidently come across some horrific movie.

Marie Antionette's picture

Submitted by Marie Antionette on Mon, 11/01/2010 - 9:12pm

ok, thanks everybody! Just thought Id check. Now I need to find some time and start scrolling through the past poop to find the juicy stuff!! Just found it really bizarre to even hear about negative messages out here, even when folks are disagreeing or giving advice Ive never seen anything offensive or angry. You're absolutely right MiloMom, and thank you for the blog-o-love! This place is WONDERFUL! I almost look forward to the next time our home ticks me off so I can come skipping in here like munchkin land and beat the crap out of the keyboard.

LOL, Last-Wife, I want a SHEEP!!! We'll have to do a stock on the hoof trade some day. (did you know Marie Antionette kept a "farm" where she would go and play farm life, all the animals were washed and lightly scented, and the sheep were dyed to match whatever dress she wore that day? The hands would be really pissed when she had a fashion crisis.)

Houston, Im jealous you had a gun to hold. We met through the renfaire, so we've got functional swords, but I cant really cuddle one on the couch will all the lights on. Perfectly natural to me. Maybe you could hide a little pepperbox derringer in a throwpillow and then you wouldnt have to worry about looks. Of course you'd have to explain why your pillow is in the gunsafe. . .

Thanks CNO for the info, I will make sure not to watch Shiver now. The closest Ive gotten to watching gore or horror has been American Psycho and Pulp Fiction, a few others like those. More psych-drama sort of thing, but we watched Legion. Freeking Legion! Angels and ice cream men, and I was about to pee. Stretchy, posessed, spider crawling icecream men, but still.

Thanks Lost, Im glad someone else has unconscious battles too. His elbow fits perfectly into my eye socket, I curl up and kick in my sleep right around his kidneys, he has raptor talons for toenails, I snuggle close then suddenly hip-check to demand space out of the cuddling I had just demanded, its nice. I think he avoids letting me see scary movies just for that purpose.

Thanks for joining me on the midnight express Snarky and Dorthy!