BM won't agree....I'm shocked!
Hopefully you read the title of this post with the large amount of sarcastic tone it was typed with.
DH had his 2nd attempt at CS modification today with BM. She actually showed up this time (I guess she could take time off from being a mom today) but got all pissy as soon as the CS Mediator told her that according to the guidelines she should be receiving $400 LESS PER MONTH than she gets right now since DH is receiving unemployment. She spouts off "But he has an iphone and internet and cable and I have none of those things". The CS Mediator stares at BM blankly while DH says "Yes, I have a wife that has a job."
The awesome thing is that the CS Mediator's husband has also been unemployed for several months and she started giving BM the riot act about how she has had to support the family off of her income for some time now.
BM: Well does he pay CS?
MED: No.
BM: Well that's different then.
MED: :? How is that different? I have two children to support and a greater amount of that responsibility has fallen to me since I don't receive CS for them and their father is unemployed.
BM: Well it just is.
BM: He (referring to my DH) could make more money if he wanted to.
DH: So you think I'm not working just to spite you?
MED: I don't think anyone in today's economy is unemployed because they WANT to be.
DH: Well, except for her (referring to his ex)
I swear this woman is the dumbest person I've ever met!!! She's bithcing about DH not having a job while she sits on her fat ass not working and expecting her exes to pay her bills while she lives in a house and drives a car paid for by her mommy and daddy and receives food stamps and free lunches for her 3 kids! :sick:
Supposedly her parents expect her to pay $400/month to live in their old house but she hasn't paid it in about 4 months because she doesn't have it and they are being understanding. Hell our mortgage is $1200/month and I can guarantee you that the bank isn't going to be at ALL understanding if we don't pay our mortgage for 3 or 4 months!
So, back to the mediation thing - she refuses to agree, so now they go to court. So we get to wait one more month. I'm trying VERY HARD not to be pissed off at my DH but I'm SOOOOOOO ticked that he didn't start this process sooner. We could have had an extra $400/month for the past year had he started this process when I first asked him too. I'm trying to keep the "I TOLD YOU SO's" to a minimum and he agrees that he should have started it sooner but that doesn't do much to diffuse my anger and it sure as heck doesn't allow us to recoup any of that money.
So, we get to go to the SS's concert tonight....I guess I'll bring my iPhone to take pictures. }:)
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It just shows that these BMs
It just shows that these BMs think that every resource their ex and SM have belongs to them! So you guys should move to a cardboard box so BM can have her $400, I guess. But if she was remarried to a gazillionaire, it wouldn't reduce CS! No way! :sick:
Yeah, us living in a box
Yeah, us living in a box won't happen because I actually work for a living and don't depend on the CS from my ex husband to support my household.
She could work for a living too but that would cut into her 'nap times'.
Thanks for the positivity
Thanks for the positivity reminder. I am thankful and if nothing else maybe this will be a wake-up call for his ex that she shouldn't be depending on her ex to support her. She wanted to be single and independent then she should be just that.
The timing is kind of rough though. Their court date happens to fall on the last day of his unemployment benefits. If they run out, they'll input him at minimum wage and it will decrease by another $200. My evil twin would like to see this happen solely to screw with BM. My angelic twin would rather see my DH FINALLY be employed again and not care if that means that BM could actually get an increase instead of a significant decrease on the day they go to court.
We need the money, my DH needs to be employed. He lost his job two weeks after he and I got married....all of our plans and dreams have been put on hold since March 2009. I'm ready to move forward with the plans we made.
It's been a rough
It's been a rough period...here's hoping things look up. We moved and then the economy feel off a cliff...felt for a long time that we were in a little boat in the middle of an unmoving ocean...nothing happening....everything on hold...!