Dear DH,

I have been through several years of you putting BM's feelings before my own. While it has got better (not non-existant), I still hold onto all the times where you put my feelings in storage, while you stroked her ego.

I am your wife; she never was. She was just some flavor of the month that you picked up while you were out.

I became friends with you; built that strong friendship with you which became a strong foundation for our relationship.

I dated you; took the time to get to know the person you are, the person you are with me, the type of person you want to be. I fealt the butterflies. I stayed up late waiting for you to call after work...for you to send me a text out of nowhere just to say hi.

I told you I am in love with you; and you me. I put in enormous ammounts of time and effort to do little things every day to let you know how much I adore you.

I married you; I stood in a church before God and all our family and friends and vowed to love you and be loyal to you for the rest of our days.

I have been your partner; always trying my best to give you the benefit of the doubt when things have been rocky. Always sticking by your side when NO ONE else is there. When everyone else is "too busy" to help you out, I am not. When we deal with not knowing when we are going to have $$$ again to pay the bills, I am there to let you know it will be okay. When you have a hard day at work, I always offer to listen, or a shoulder to lay your head on. When you aren't feeling well, I do anything I can to help you get better. I keep our home looking nice so you have a relaxing place to go back to after a hard day.

I know you. I know your favorite color, you favorite foods, your favorite shows, your habits (good and bad), your likes, your dislikes, your dreams and aspirations.

I love you, unconditionally. I have given you all of me, every day we have been together. I have been there through the good times and the bad. I have allowed you to see parts of me and have confessed things to you that no one else has ever known.

Yet, there were so many times where her feelings came before mine. Where I was put on the back burner and the way she fealt was a priority. All she did was lie to you, cheat on you, tell you she was on b.c. when she wasn't, and purposely get pregnant to try to trap you. All she has done is try to guilt you, manipulate you, and screw you over.

Does she know who you really are? Did she even know your middle name? Does she do anything more for you than make sure she gets her c.s. every month and try to give us grief for our relationship?

No, she hasn't been there. All she did was spread her legs and put her hand out for entitlement. I have been there. I have loved you. I have defended you. I have given you a life where you are finally happy.

So, with all this, why should her feelings ever come first?