I haven't posted here in quite a while. I have a 15 yo ss who has been living with us full time for 10 years. Just this past week my DH (after much pressure from yours truly) finally filled out the paper work to go after his ex for CS. She owes between 15-20 k. Yeah, she paid us the full amount of court ordered support the first week...that was it. And she got away with it for all these years (I guess you could say he let her). In the meantime, I had taken on a part time job in addition to my full time job, to make ends meet. All the while the ex collected unemployment and also worked under the table while contributing nothing to her child. Still she's the hero to him and nothing we provide for him is worth anything...he hates me and makes it known...just recently saying that he's not going on our vacation if "SHE'S going" of course, referring to me. Who does he think paid for the vaca, planned it, etc? I'm so sick of this. To make matters worse, he is repeating his freshman year, which means that I have to put up with him for another year....I'm also upset because my bs is now going to be in the same grade as his two year older half brother. There is a huge part of me that wishes he could just go live with her for the remainder of his HS career. I know I sound mean and resentful, and in some ways this is true. I used to be all over him about homework and things and then about two years ago he started getting really fresh, angry, looked as though he might want to hurt me....and ran away twice over me telling him to do his h/w. So I told dh that I quit as far as homework patrol, etc. I got off his back, so to speak. I pretty much ignore him unless he's doing something to physically hurt my own kids. Then the other day, he says that I'm the reason he failed his freshmen year...and he was mad that I was making my bs finish his summer reading report..."How come you make sure that he's gonna pass and gets his stuff done, but you never do that for me?" Um, excuse me? Do you remember the crap you put me through? I can't believe this...I don't know how I'm going to survive. There is so much more..this is just a terrible situation.