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kay's picture

Submitted by kay on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 4:06pm

We finally got custudy of my SS after 8 years. The 8 years that he was with his BM we paid 1600 a month. Now that he is with us the court ordered 250 per month. She said she can not afford it and will not pay. Is this worth it....she is draging the SS into this telling him that we are trying to take all their money. We never missed a payment in 8 years! Yes, I admit we do not need the money but what is fair is fair. Am I being a butt head?

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Submitted by glynne on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 4:13pm

No you're not but think about picking your fights and is this really worth it?

Congrats on the custody - sounds like a win/win for SS and you!

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Submitted by stepgin on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 4:20pm

There is an old saying that may apply in this case. You've got to pick which mountain you're willing to die on.
You're not being a total butthead, but the BM obviously doesn't have the resources that your DH does or she would have been ordered to pay more. 1600/250... Even if she doesn't pay she will owe the money to your DH forever. He can always take her back to court for non-payment when her situation improves.

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Submitted by missangie1978 on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 4:30pm

Just send it in to the support enforcement office and let them deal with it and if they get if from her great if not don't worry about it, she still owes it but it's not really worth the fight if she honestly can't pay it.

When we got SS BM was ordered to bay $50/month and she wouldn't even do that, the judge was so ticked he raised it to $130/month (yeah I know it's so much - insert sarcasm here)and 2 years later the enforcement office sent us her tax returns to pay the rears - haha

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 5:08pm

I agree with this.

Although you may never see a dime from month to month, it's worth it for BM to have that debt hanging over her head because you know it was SO easy for her to cash your DH's checks every month. Turn about is fair play. She should have to pay something and like the above poster said - you'll get her tax refund, every year until she catches up!

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Submitted by kay on Wed, 07/14/2010 - 5:49pm

Thanks guys! I really thought I was losing it. I think I am more angry that she is pulling the SS into it. This is not his battle. Hell we never even discussed child support with him when he lived with BM. I will just have to wait it out and just let the courts take action on it.

You guys rock!! Thanks again!