Happy Fathers Day one and all! It is a warm balmy day and Husband and SD16 B/M are out fishing with another father/daughter combo. Which is awesome. Later plans are to gather with my parents and enjoy some food and conversations in a garden setting outside in the sunshine. And all is good and right in our world, right?

Well as the title sais, there is more to this story!

Paul in utah had a wonderful post-prompt that lead me to creating this post. Last night SD16 felt like chatting with me about "stuff" and as usual our conversations jump around to many topics, in a sort of flowy way. I dont direct it or controll it I simply go with it.

Naturally conversation floated to her sister SD23 Feral Forger. She has a new job at a popular makeup chain store, but has been staying home because she got COVID. So that means that SD16 will probably stay with us for the next week that is not our week. Which is fine. It is what it is. I just walk on eggshells for longer and find things to do ourside the home more. Its all good.

We did talk about SD23 in a more abstract way. Sort of trying to figure out the WHYS of her being a lazy, stealing, lie-telling mooch. Shes still stealing and such, but I figure its because she doesnt know how or even want to do for herself. Its just easier to use others for what they can give and do for her. She has depression and is on medications, and has been "diagnosed" as whatever, (which I feel is yet another lie) but I feel and SD16 agrees its because of her choices in life. She chooses not to be self-sustaining and independant. Therefore she finds it necessary to do and be who she currently is because she cannot do it for herself. It is a self-perpetuating cycle of misery. There is no pride and happiness in accomplishment - all this from SD16 who has finally worked her first job (which thankfully came to an end for whatever reason) and is currently job hunting.

The priceless comment from SD16 "and my mom has been wondering where she went wrong, like did she not pay enough attention to her...did she do something wrong...". Hmmm - maybe she didnt smack her around enough...? (for newbies, Toxic Troll has body slammed and slapped and so forth, on SD23...who then uses the abuse to guilt her mother into letting her do whatever she wants without repercussions)

Toxic Troll's parenting fail as well as Husbands parenting fail. TT blocked Husbands many attempts at parenting, and even now enables her in such a way that it perpetuates the cycle - the cycle of dysfunction doesnt exist on its own. Without her eablement, it would cease to exist in its current form. Feral Forger would be forced into standing on her own two feet. She would be forced to make better choices or face repercussions.

The dark secret I carry is that as long as toxic Troll continues her enablement, then I am safe from the Feral Forger sh!t show...