Small thing made me feel awful
The good news...I found out yesterday that I got the term job I applied for! It sucks thinking about being off maternity leave and not being with my baby girl all day, but at least it's for a good job with awesome pay and it is super close to home.
Since I got this great news, I hadn't talked to either of my parents yet. After DH, baby girl, and I got home from dinner last night I went downstairs to call our accountant and sort some things out. DH came down and I told him I had to call my mom and then email my dad. Okay, fine. Afterwards, when I went upstairs, all the lights were off and DH had gone to bed. He hadn't even come downstairs to say goodnight or anything. I got into bed and he was asleep, so I didn't say anything.
I know it sounds like a small thing, but it really hurt my feelings. We hadn't fought or anything, so why ignore me like that? I know I can be a jerk sometimes, but I wouldn't have done that, I would have thought it was rude. What is up with DH acting like that??
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Would it be too far fetched
Would it be too far fetched to think that maybe DH is sensitive too and thought that maybe you were kinda blowing him off?
You know how we ladies (forgive the generalization, no harm intended) like to be fussed over, acknowledged for little things we do, for our sweet and sensitive ways? Well, slap me silly but I have a hunch the men in our lives do, too, except the "things" they do may be different. Perhaps DH was hoping you guys would end the evening together after dinner, without involving anyone else, relishing in your success, just the two of you. He's probably feeling proud, excited, a little nervous? Change is coming! You got a job (congrads!!!). His wife is going to be working again. He knows it's logical that you'd want to share the news with your parents BUT.. his sensitive, possessive, loving heart wants you all to himself. KWIM?
Just a thought
DH is happy for me. We both
DH is happy for me. We both knew I'd be going back to work. We can't afford for me not to.
He said now in an email that
He said now in an email that he wasn't feeling well after dinner, so he went to bed at 8:50. I guess that's why he was asleep when I went in at 9:30. When I asked why he didn't tell me or at least come say goodnight he said he didn't want to bother me. Since when does it bother me to let me know you don't feel well so you're going to bed early? Either way, it made me feel bad but now it's been turned around as my fault.
I'm sure it seems like I'm overreacting but things like this always happen. SD7 hardly talks to me, must be because I don't talk to her enough. DH makes me feel bad, it's because I would make him feel like he's bothering me.