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I see changes in SD18

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Mon, 01/22/2018 - 6:43pm

SD18 has been away from BM and at a group home for about a month. She's come to visit us several times and I see some positive changes in her. I'm cautiously optimistic. My middle daughter works at her school and sees her there all the time - we're glad she's back in school. Yesterday, SO, SD16 & SD18 and I went to look at a reception venue. Back in the car, he said he wanted to ask them a question about the place. SD18 was on the phone and she actually told the person, Hey let me call you back, my dad wants to talk to me. Previously, she would have just kept talking on the phone. She's been respectful and hasn't lost her mind when he tells her no or that he can't do something for her or pick her up, etc. She told SO that since being away from BM, she feels free. She still visits BM but obviously being from under her control is doing SD18 a world of good. I pray she continues on this path. Now we're just worried about SD16. Seems BM has turned all her crazy attention on her. Last night, SO was taking her home and BM wasn't there. When they called her, BM said she'd be home in about 1/2 hour and wanted them to just wait in the car. SO said no and he was bringing SD16 back to our house and he would get her to school in the morning. Well, SD16 and BM were on the phone after that and BM instructed her to just get out the car, which SD16 did while the car was moving. She ran up the block (and they were in a pretty sketchy area of the city) and wouldn't get back in the car. SO ended up calling the cops to get some help with this kid but BM showed up before the cops got there. Once SD16 got in the car, he said he pulled off but BM followed him and tried to stop his car by cutting him off and getting in front of him - he said she did it several times, but he managed to just get around her eventually and left. My oldest daughter was at my house so he asked her opinion (she's a lawyer) and she told him he needed to file an incident report with the police to have it on record. He did that. So, I guess here we go with the 16 yo now. Good grief.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 12:11am

I hope the 18 year old stays the way she's now, maybe she could talk to her little brat sister...

and why ar eyou inviting these 2 to your wedding? I would not, no way... if the 18 year old keeps being nice, maybe

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 5:19pm

SO would be crushed if his kids weren't there. Hopefully the 16 yo won't start acting up - she's usually the "good one".

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 2:50am

good to hear the 18 yr old is growing up...seems you now have to work on the other one...hopefully youll have some normalcy in the future...get dh to work on the 16 yr old...good luck

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 2:52am

dup

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 4:54am

Shows you what a horrid influence these GUBM's are. Sounds exactly like SD19, who at 17/18 got in trouble many a time at school for failure to get off her phone at the school teacher's request.

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 5:22pm

This BM has terrible parenting skills but let her tell it, she's mother of the year

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 5:17pm

SO said he talked to SD18 about the incident this morning cause BM already told her about it. SD18 told BM none of that would have happened if SD16 had not forgotten her key to the house. BM got mad at her for saying that....lol. Guess she was ticked that SD18 wasn't siding with her automatically and condemning her dad.