I am so glad to have found this site where I can blog and vent about my step parenting night mares with the step brat from hell! I have had the "pleasure" of step parenting my step daughter (whom I privatly refer to as "MY HELL" (matches her name, age 10, 4th grade) or "The Golden Brat" for 6 and a half long years.

DH is in the ARMY and BM is a looser and hasn't had anything to do with Step Brat or her two sisters by other fathers in 5 years. So yep, guess who has gotten stuck with the responsibility of MY Hell? Certianly not either of those two people who were in the bedroom when the mistake was made!

I went to high school with her "BM" and I can tell you this. If I would have been able to see into the future back then. I would have knocked BM in the head, drug her out behind the school, and performed a hystorectomy on her with my #2 pencil!

My Hell is a konniving, manipulating, annoying, little pathological liar who gets away with murder because of her coddling father..The running joke amoung my friends and family members is that if her mouth is moving she is lying. It's sad but it happens to be the truth. Anything that I have done to try to straigten the kids out or correct her from wrong doing is undermined and undone by DH. So the child is an absolute night mare.

He does things like..For instance, she has gotten rotten grades all year. Her first report card and parent teacher conference resulted in him lecturing her infront of her teacher. (To make himself look good.)But he didn't do anything about it with My Hell. No punishment, no further discussion with her at home. It was like it never happened! Instead he took all the family out to dinner that night. So, get crummy grades and be treated out to dinner!

Her second report card, suprisingly, came back with even worse grades then the first. I tried to correct her, because it was apparent that daddy wasn't going to. I grounded her to her room for a week and grounded her from electronics. After she was done with her grounding to her room. I would come down staires to find her curled up with her dad, remote in her grimy little hand watching TV!! Basically, her dad doesn't enforce or support anything I do to try to correct her.When I call him on not enforcing the punishments that I try to lay down for her..His pat excuse is that he didn't do it on purpose and just "wasn't paying attention." But he doesn't get after her for watching tv, when her 10 and a half year old self knew she wasn't supposed to be!! GRRRRR.....

So last week she brought home a midterm progress report for her third semester..5 f's and a D-...Keeping in my that I am still trying to enforce my punishment for her grades on her 2nd report card for the year!! What does dad do?

We came into a bit of money a few weeks earlier. We get to the store to do a bit of shopping.. I had given my second oldest (15, and has gotten all A's). 100 dollars out of the money to spend as she pleases. Why? Because she does well in school, helps out around the house immensly, baby sits our son and the step brat with out expecting to be paid for it..Basically my 15 year old daughter EARNED AND DESERVED THAT MONEY..

At the store the step brat points out to me that she has "100 dollars to spend"!! What??? That's right folks.. DH told Step brat that she has 100 dollars to spend at the store too and of course didn't share it with me or discuss it with me before hand.. I was notified at the store by the step brat! :jawdrop:

Yes so basically bring home all f's and a d-, and get 100 dollars. Which by the way she spent on electronics, of which is was supposedly grounded from! I WAS PISSED BEYOND PISSED!! It fries me that while I am trying to correct her, her dad is allowing her to undermine my corrections and he is rewarding her (giving her 100 bucks)!! She is just handed what the other child HAD EARNED!!

He doesn't see that as thwarting my attempts at correcting her or as undermining me!! At least that's what he says, but it honestly seems to me that he is purposly doing so and trying to deal with it passivly. I find it hard to believe that anyone could be as clueless as he pretends to be..He would have to be almost brain dead!!!

This brand of stuff has gone on for 6 and a half years and I am just sick of it. I am seriously contemplating divorce because I just can't stand her or how he is regarding her anymore. I am so tired of her not having to respect the rules in our home and all of the stuff she is allowed to get away with because her daddy lets it happen. It isn't fair to me or my kids!

Heck, even the family dog doesn't like her!! The fact of the matter is that I am sick to death of looking at her, listening to her and dealing with her and I am getting there with her father also!