The answer is still NO!
It’s been almost a year since skid was kicked out of our house for not following the rules and being disrespectful. He was given 45 days notice by DH (which was way too much) and was told to behave during this period. His attitude was so bad that that I finally said after 10 days of notice that he is no longer welcome back to spend another night under my roof.
I told DH that skid is not welcome for dinner or any other gatherings here until he sincerely apologizes for everything. A year later he has not apologized and even if he did it would not be sincere at this point it would be because he wants something.
Skid rents a house with his GF, GF’s sister and her BF and newborn baby. The sister’s BF has been a nightmare of a roommate, total slob, disrespectful; everything that skid was when he lived here. Both skid and his GF hate living where they do and are trying to save money to move out.
DH has asked skid to dog sit for him when we go away and we take the dog over there and pick the dog up when we come back. Which is up to DH since its his dog. DH has mentioned that it would be so much nicer if skid could just stay at our house while we are gone and look after his dog here. I have already said no way! He did not show any respect for our home, our possessions or us for that matter while he was living here with the consequence that he could be kicked out, why would I let him stay here when we are not here and no consequence. Not a chance!
Today DH goes to lunch with skid and GF (I opted out) and asked if he could take care of his dog for a few days in February since we will be away. I guess GF piped up and said that they would love to and it would be nice to do it at our place. Skid was all over that idea. DH said he was not sure about that and then skid said even if we can just hangout there during the day to get away from the drama of sister’s BF at our house. He still said he was not sure.
He comes home and tells me this and my answer is still a big fat no!!! DH thinks that we will have more of a discussion about this, but he can talk until he is blue in the face, the answer is still NO!!
I can feel a huge fight brewing, because I am not going to give in!
Do not give in. I'd pay for
Do not give in. I'd pay for a kennel before I'd allow my SS in my home.
Good for you! I'd pay for a
Good for you!
I'd pay for a kennel too.
I would remind DH that you
I would remind DH that you are still waiting for his son to apologise to you for his disgusting behaviour only a few years ago. And maybe his son realising that he is reaping what he sowed because from the sounds of things *SS* is being treated JUST the way he treated you guys. Does DH want to remain an spouse or does he give more credence to being an enabling father?
Oh and me three to getting the dog kennelled for a few days.
When I heard him talk about
When I heard him talk about his roommate all I could think was how familar. Love karma.
DH I'm sure thinks I should let it go however skid has used up all those passes and then some.
DH will have to kennel the dog or dog is dog sat at skids place not mine. He will have to get it all squared away, not my problem. All I know is there is no was skid 21 and GF 18 are staying here to make a mess, drink my booze, eat my food, snoop through my stuff and who else knows what. It is so No!
When someone tells me to "let
When someone tells me to "let something go" I tell them that my definition of "letting go" is to truly let go of that person. They just are not relevant to my life at all - i.e. they do not exist in my world.
If DH is really a big wussy
If DH is really a big wussy then make something up, have him tell ss that you're having the house fumigated and no people or pets are allowed in for at least 72 hours and this is why you're farming the dog out.
In the summer I toured a
In the summer I toured a kennel and set up a file with them in case we ever had an emergency and needed to use them. My DH's dog is very sensitive and the kennel is a last option.
However a lot of my friends have offered to have her stay with them because they thought she was such a sweet dog. So there are back ups in place, DH just asks his son because he more comfortable doing that then approaching one of my friends.
I would love to find someone I am comfortable with who could stay at the house while I am gone with the dog, all I know that person is not skid.