Yesterday was my 31st birthday and turned out to be just an awful day. It started off at 1158pm on Saturday night. Myself and hubby have a tradition that we stay up and wish the other happy birthday at the stroke of midnight. We have done this for 5 years and even tang each other at this time when living Long distance. At 1158 this year, my hubby literally handed me our baby said goodnight and turned over to go to sleep. By 12 he was snoring loudly. I was so upset I couldn't sleep and stayed awake until well after 330 and was up again at 6 with the baby so was sleep deprived on top of it.

Hubby continues to ignore the fact that it's my birthday for the first hour of the day. He eventually says happy birthday. I reply "I thought you'd forgotten". He says no when I collected ss13 yesterday I told him that we were going to pretend we had forgotten your birthday! I was just going to say at 8pm of course I hadn't forgotten and given you your present. I was so upset about this - that he was planning on leaving me think all day he's forgotten my birthday and hat he had told ss and I felt like they were both laughing at me. He also announced in front of ss that I was upset by their plan so no doubt he went rushing back to bm the bitch telling her all about it.

Then he gives me my present which turned out to be lingerie from a sex shop. While I am no prude this was a present my dh. It was in no way thoughtful for me. I again was so upset by this but decided to graciously accept the gift but I did mention that i thought t was more for him than me and I know he knew I was disappointed with it.

To make matters worse dh said we were going or to dinner. Of course ss just had to come but I bit my tongue and was looking forward to a nice dinner. I was a vegetarian for years but I now eat some chicken. I do not eat any other meat. Where did dh take me but a restaurant whose speciality was seafood. So all I could order was a starter of chicken wings with fries on the side. This cost €8. Ss ordered a starter, the most expensive main course on the menu and a dessert and his food alone was close to 38€. Dh kept going on about how taking me out for dinner had made up for it and how expensive the dinner was. No mine was 8€!!! Again I could not hide my disappointment that it was so thoughtless. Dh said he did not look at the menu in advance. Of course him and ss had a great time stuffing their faces though. The place didn't even have a place to change the baby.

I'm just feeling so down about the whole day today. Tensions are already high due to lack of savings by dh for bs. I'm sleep deprived which is also not helping. Dh keeps going on about me wearing the lingerie. It is crumpled up in a bag on his side of the bed as I just can't even bring myself to look at it and feel it's such a waste of money. Eugh. Let's hope this year is better than yesterday. M

Edited to add: when I gave birth to be 15 weeks ago , this was ruined by the presence of bm1 who at one stage was two beds away from me for a couple of hours while dh was off with ss. So this experience was totally ruined by it. I thought my dh could have done something to make me feel even a little bit special yesterday.