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Saw the ugly side of my dh I haven’t seen in a while

Starryeyed's picture

Today was horrendous. My dh has been sick all week. Made a lemsip and left it in the hall. Went to work and forgot about it - I had no idea he had made it - was nowhere near him when he did. We live in a tiny two bed apt so the two babies have free roam once I know there’s nothing harmful. Poor baby girl pulled he cup down on herself when I was putting my ds shoes on. It’s a pretty bad second degree burn. We spent all day in the hospital getting it landed and back to see a plastic surgeon in the morning.

 

ny so is inpatient but he kept getting angry it was taking so long to be seen by the doctor despite me double checking she was still on the list. He is stressed with work I know and also was due to go to a stag this weekend 2 hours away. He works in a business where he swears a lot. I know that’s his personality but he was obviously stressed. Told me we should leave the hospital to was taking too long and when I said I would wasn’t going actually loudly swore at me in the waiting room.

 

he knows I find this unacceptable. He has done this a few times over the past few years and I keep telling him it isnutterly disrespectful and unacceptable. He thinks I’m wrong that I snapped that I said “I wasn’t leaving he could go if he  wanted!”.

 

he left for the stag at 5. It is now 12 am

and he hasn’t text once to see how the baby is.... it really makes me sick to my stomach that he hasn’t text me to see how she is.....

 

he he is due back Sunday. Only I’m not petty I will text him a break down of her 9 am apt I’m sure he’ll still be asleep then and I feel like not being here on Sunday when hEs due back ... thoughts? 

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Starryeyed's picture

i should have labeled this... would you expect a call/text??

 

i know if it was other way around I’d have FaceTimed her and text a few times to check everything was ok as it would be playing on my mind 

notsurehowtodeal's picture

If it was just a weekend away, he should have stayed home. If it was a "bachelor party," I can maybe see him going for the evening, but not the weekend. Given the fact he already went - he should have checked in with you by now. Is it typical for him to be somewhat less than involved with his kids?

Hope your baby is doing ok. Burns are the worst.

Starryeyed's picture

I’m not really annoyed he went as baby seems ok and happy and he did have to provide transport for somebody else to get there BUT I am so annoyed he hasn’t text me to see how she is even if he perceives I did something wrong surely she matters the most.

 

thank you baby is doing ok it was all just such a shock especially when the blisters got bad. Thankfully it’s toes rather than face.

 

so you would have expected a text too ?? I would never have not sent one text to see how my 2 and 1 year old were even if there’d been no burns....

i feel disgusted at him as her father. 

beebeel's picture

My DH texts me just to say goodnight if he's going to be gone all night. ESPECIALLY if we argued before he left. 

Is this the guy who screamed and raged at a 2 year old for breaking a tv?

twoviewpoints's picture

No, the screaming over his television father belongs to Kmommy.

Starry is the one with the SS who has and always has had Dad's primary focus and attention. I'm actually surprised Starry's DH went somewhere for the weekend instead of having his teenage son (which he has every weekend). The one who left Starry giving birth by herself while he went to go pick--up his kid for the weekend. 

Kmommyof388's picture

I' be disgusted as well... considering the accident was completely his fault, I'd be sure to ruin his stag weekend why should he have fun while the baby was injured. But then again I would actually expect something like this from my dh