Today is supposed to be my and DH's tenth wedding anniversary. It's been a day from hell. It doesn't help that I had the stomach virus from hell two day ago and I am still feeling the effects from that.

I remember joking with DH ten years ago that he wanted to hurry up and seal the deal before I changed my mind. Little did I know that would not be a joke! I've learned that once you say I do, the evil stepmother is born!!!

I've posted on here a few times but for those of you who don't know my story, DH's former wife died at a young age of 36. He was left with a 6 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. The then 6 year old is now an 18 year old monster who is supposed to live here until he graduates from high school if that ever happens. He's already signed up to join the Navy and after the last year, I've told DH that I will never stand in his way of having a relationship with his son but do NOT ask me to. I'm DONE. Today, he told me that he didn't see himself having a relationship with his kids after they were grown and somehow that is my fault. If he doesn't have a relationship with his children, that is not on me. But apparently everything is my fault. I expect too much and get caught up in the little stuff. I actually expect them to do 30 minutes worth of chores a day. I consider is payment for the cell phone. When they were younger, all they had to do it pick up after themselves to teach them responsibility but I was wrong there too.

But with SS, at first when he was younger, it was just the constant lying that DH did nothing about. Then it started with taking little things around the house that were mine and I'd find them in his room. I'd let DH know but "kids do that sometimes." Then money started disappearing from the kitchen counter, my purse, etc. Again, nothing was done. And I was too ignorant and naïve to "cause waves."

We even had him evaluated and the therapist told me (DH wasn't there to hear this and I wish to this day that he was.) that he was extremely manipulative and he would do everything in his power to destroy our marriage if we did not do something about it. He was 8 years old at the time. Of course, "his son wouldn't do that."

It started out small and things have evolved over time. I had to ask for lock for my bedroom door to keep him out because he kept going in there and going through my stuff when we weren't home. I was a horrible person for asking for a lock though. It's been thrown up in my face by DH many times. Even after the lock was put up, he broke in several times!!! DH still didn't understand why I wanted a lock.

Two summers ago, before he had a license, he took our old car that we weren't using and went joy riding one summer day when DH was out of town. He put the car in a ditch and the police came by. DH about had a heart attack when he got a call from the sheriff's department. Police didn't press charges and I wish they would have.

In the last year, he stole one of DH's credit cards but didn't realize that he "stole" it and ran up over $500 in bills on that one. Who discovered that? me. And ever since he got a cell phone, it gets taken away from him regularly because he doesn't care if he texts someone in another country or calls 900 numbers for phone sex. Not to mention all the trash talk between him and his girlfriend including the text that said he hoped I had a f-ing heart attack and die!!!

Then there is the grades, skipping school, etc. The best one yet was he was planning to get his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant!!! Great plan!!!

I could go on and on but in my opinion, it's all because DH parented out of guilt and never supported any rules that I tried to put in place. Now he's 18, thinks he knows it all but someone it's all my fault because I was not a loving, nurturing stepmother to him. The kid has hated my guts since I got here. He has done everything to make my life hell and ruin my marriage. And let's not also forget that I talk to him horribly. Well, when you didn't listen or acknowledge me the first two times, it's gonna sound ugly!! How am I to respond to that?

I thought up until today, that for the first time ever, DH and I were on the same page. Now, I don't know what to think. So, I'm sitting in my office pretending to do homework because I decided to go back to school last year and better myself. So if this marriage doesn't work out, I'll finally have a degree and be able to support myself a little bit better.

Thanks for listening to me vent. It's been a hell of a day.