Five Year Anniversary was yesterday. The day went ok for the most part. A couple of days before SD texted DH to watch GS1 while she works on Sunday. If I had not been sitting right next to him I think he would have forgotten that it is our five year Anniversary. He texted her to say it was our Anniversary and we have plans. He could help another time. The last he heard from her was her texting in a whinny guilt trip tone of text ( if tone is even possible in text) , " I gotta find someone to watch baby on Sunday or I can't work". This is after she has Sd30 watch the kid for her to work a double shift on Saturday. And the last we heard from that one was that he was throwing up. Great. Did any one wish us a happy Anniversary ? No. We end up having words over the skids again. He is still so defensive.
The SD 30,who is the mental criminal who made my life hell and started this downward spiral between DH and me, also is still texting DH about a million times a day complaining about something. Saying her therapist almost put her in the hospital the other night at her counseling session. Her guilt trip text said" I don't need to go out to eat. I needed a place to stay where people could look out for me.". This In reference to DH trying to get her to see him. And to when she lived here for 5 wks and I had to force her out. Wtf. Did she think daddy was going to take care of her? Or that I was? What is the deal with these princesses that fail to grow up? She doesn't even know how to hang a picture on the wall by herself. Or when to clean up the cat litter or how often to wash her sheets and clean her bathroom. And the stupid bitch says by text she is overdosing on laxatives to lose weight, and DH doesn't think she abuses substances.
So even though I am disengaging from them they still manage to screw up my Anniversary. When I say as much to DH he says I don't know that is what they are trying to do. Whatever. Anniversary, Sunday, weekend, day.....any of it with them in any part of it or even the thought of them messes it up.
I woke up the morning of my Anniversary and DH was not in bed with me. He went out on the couch bc he couldn't sleep. He didn't come back in even in the morning to snuggle. But he had time to text back and forth with SD30. And time for a bunch of text at the end of the night too. The sick affair by text with his grown D is disgusting. I just want to be done with it all. It was not anything like this when I got together with him. Nothing at all. I had no idea the SD' s would do the things they have done.
He did spend time with me on our anniversary, he was loving and even gave a back rub. And a lovely card. We had already picked some furniture for our bedroom as our gift this year.
I am feeling so numb and distant from him most days and resentful of what he allowed to happen to our marriage and me that I ended up not buying him a new card and regiving him a card from three years ago. He didn't even notice. Guess there is a reason I save stuff.
I just feel down and alone and isolated lately. Need to rally and move on with things I want to do. I'll see my GD soon. That will help.
Just hope 'they' don't manage to spoil that visit with their annoying stalker texting of DH. Maybe I will block their phones for the weekend. Should have done it for the Anniversary. My birthday is this week, maybe that would be a nice present to myself.