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Follow up to "Do I even bother telling DH'

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Submitted by fedupstep on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:10am

So she lied...

As I posted in my last blog, SD16 claimed she didn't get her report card. I let it go for a couple weeks, but finally caved and called her school. She did get it when I asked her about it. I haven't said anything to either DH or SD16 (who is coming for a visit this weekend).

But now something else has come up...I just downloaded an app that allows me to text anywhere in the world for free. When you download it, it automatically adds anyone from your contact list to the app contact list. SD showed up on that list.

SD16 is not supposed to have any chat or texting apps on her phone due to some major issues the last couple years. (sending naked pics to strangers overseas).

I see that BM also has the app so there is a possibility that she has allowed it since her judgement when it comes to SD is astoundingly pathetic.

Part of me wants to confront SD16 alone and tell her I know she lied about her report card and that she has this app on her phone. Another part of me wants to tell DH, which will likely end up in a 'why are you checking up on her' conversation, and part of me is just too fed up to care anymore.

It's been about 3 months since the last behaviour issue with her. She makes a point to tell us EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. she's with DH and I that she is 'turning her life around'. DH is delerious with pride. I always suspected she is just getting better at hiding things.

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Submitted by fedupstep on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:26am

I would have done this if I hadn't asked SD16 in front of DH about her report card on her last visit 2 weeks ago. I had already seen on the school website that she got it that day. (At least ONE of her parental figures should know these things). I asked her about it, she said she didn't get it. I know from working in a school that teachers are mandated to hand them out on time. DH brushed it off with a 'bring it next time'. I knew she was lying. I called the school to ensure they went out on time. They did.
So now I have to decide to confront her first and make her tell her dad the truth or bust her in front of him. Either way, DH will be furious and I will deal with his bad mood after she leaves. She's allowed to fuck up, only deal with her dad for a couple of days and then go home. I get to have the moodiness and snippiness for at least a week.

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Submitted by fedupstep on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:31am

Normally I would agree if it wasn't for her sending naked pictures of herself all over the bloody world a year ago. If it was just a way for her to talk to her friends, I would just turn a blind eye. But she has made some pretty horrid choices for herself the last couple years and it will take more than a couple months of 'good' behaviour to convince me she has learned her lesson.

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Submitted by fedupstep on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:36am

This is brilliant...LMAO!

I just tried it and interestingly enough I am 'blocked' from sending a text to SD16 on this app...only other person I am also blocked from? BM. I think she thought if she blocked me, it doesn't show in my contact list...the plot thickens...

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:47am

Buy a disposable phone OR get a friend to text her "Hey Liar Liar Pants On Fire! Reports cards went out 2 weeks ago. Texting your dad to let him know." Then text your DH. Make sure it's a friend whose number he does not have. Make sure the friend NEVER answers any responses that are received.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Wed, 03/25/2015 - 10:29am

i wouldnt bother. she's 16 - let her sink or swim on her own. sounds like your dh would rather keep his head in the sand, i wouldnt start a fight for this....