Well, to start off....SD15 moved in with DH & I in August. BM was to give us her stuff so that we wouldn't have to buy SD15 all new things (clothes, personal items, anything of SD15's that she wanted). Well, the only thing BM gave us was SD15's clothes, shoes, a purse or 2, some of her make-up, and a couple of SD15's movies. Well this upset SD15 and she can't understand why BM won't give her her things. Then to top it off, last month BM called and said SD15, I'm going through some of your things that are here and was wondering what you wanted me to do with them. SD15 told her that she wanted the stuff. And BM told SD15 that SD12 wanted SD15's complete Harry Potter book set. Well that upset SD15 alot and she kept telling BM that she wanted the books, because they were her's. And BM says, well you already read them so SD12 can have them. I paid for them anyways. And there were some other items that SD15 wanted of hers and BM kept telling SD15 that BM was giving them to SD12. So, needless to say besides the few things that BM did give SD15, she doesn't have much. And DH finally got BM to agree to lower the CS. But BM still ended up screwing us on the CS, because since SD15 came to live with us, they were holding all the CS sent in until DH & BM made an agreement. So when the agreement was entered in, they gave BM all the funds in the CS account and over paid BM for August & September. So, we were hoping to use that extra CS that should have came back to us, to start replacing SD15's things. Well since we didn't get it, SD15 has to wait a little longer.

Now since I explained the situation, onto the problem. Since SD15 doesn't have all of her things, she has been basically taking everyone else's things without asking to use them. SD15 had an MP3 player and it quit working shortly after she got to our house. So, she has been taking my BS11's MP3 without asking and when she does ask, she doesn't return it to him for a few days. I have recently noticed the other day when I was getting ready to go job hunting that some of my make-up was gone (mascara, lip gloss, cheek blush, eye lash curler, and I'm not sure what else). I wouldn't be so upset about it, except for the fact she didn't ask. When I go to use something, I expect it to be there. I also have candles every where in my kitchen & living room. Well, the other evening while DH & I went to the store, we left SD15 & BS11 here and she took some of my candles into her bedroom.

I talked to DH about it and all he said was....well, did you say anything to her? I was like no not yet, I wanted to discuss it with you first to see how we should handle it. Because we had a discussion with her about 2 weeks ago about the MP3 player and she is still continuing to take it without asking or not even returning it to BS11 when she does ask. I still haven't said anything to SD15, because I am not sure how to approach the situation. And obviously DH isn't gonna help me out on this. I understand she is use to having her own things, and I don't want to upset her. She has been through enough. Any advice on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated.