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SD putting pictures of BM in house

NewSM2015's picture

I am not a stepparent yet but have been with my significant other for over 8 years, and have known my soon to be SD since she was an infant. She's a teen now– constantly talks about her mother, which I never stop the conversation because a lot of times with everyone it is like pulling teeth to get her to talk. I have a good relationship with the mother, when it comes to family get togethers we get a long really well. My significant other and I recently moved in together after living apart for two years ( financial issues made is leave our last apartment-- but we were still together). I came home yesterday, Father's Day to find that she had a huge posterboard of pictures of the BM and my significant other. I was crushed and furthermore angry at the fact that now pictures of this woman are in my bedroom. Do I have a right to be angry about this? There is a limited amount of rooms that this poster can go without me having to look at it.

SpeakingGreek's picture

Agreed - that picture belongs either in the child's own bedroom or at the BM's house. I had to address the same issue with my SD and DH backed me up. Why would your SO even allow that picture in YOUR bedroom? and how would he like a nice poster-sized pic of you with your ex hanging in the bedroom?

NewSM2015's picture

It put me in a hard place because it was a gift to my fiancée. It's not like there are any chances of them getting back together the BM is married and lives across the country. Like I said I have a good relationship with the BM I just don't know how to approach this

jam's picture

Gift????? That was interference with a bow on it! I would simply take it down and lay it on her bed!

Unfreakingreal's picture

Super gross and just dripping with cattiness. I'd make it disappear. MAybe put it in her closet, tape it to the back wall where her clothes cover it.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Make your own collage. Of you and dh kissing, snuggling, going fun places. Hang it in SD's room. It's a gift!

Make a second collage of you and your ex kissing, snuggling, going fun places. Photoshop if you have to. Hang it in your bedroom. It's a gift!