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First time spending the holidays alone :(

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Submitted by WhereDidIPutMyBroom on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 12:15pm

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This is the first year that I have spent the holidays alone. DH and I separated a month ago and we have decided not to celebrate the holidays together. Even after everything we have gone through, I must honesly say that it makes me sad that our family cannot be together on the holidays. It kills me that I will spend Christmas alone instead of watching my kids open their gifts...and when I say Kids...that includes SD14 and SD11. I want so bad to send them a card or something, but they have told my DH that they hate me and will never speak to me again, and that trying to reach out to them would not be a good thing to do right now.

I have actually considered working at the soup kitchen in my area over the holidays just to keep my mind off everything.

Just so sad Sad

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 12:53pm

I do remenber the first holiday's I spend alone. It is not easy.
The soup kitchen is a great idea. I am sending you a hug and good wishes. Do something nice for yourself.

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Submitted by majka on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 1:20pm

Im so sorry (((hugs))) but I think that the volunteering is a great idea!! I am sending you good thoughts Smile

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Submitted by smileygirl on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 1:34pm

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how bad you are feeling right now. Yes, please volunteer and get out there around other people. Also, as DH and I aren't really able to be togeather at this time...just in case I've already searched the internet and found several local holiday happenings to attend to help keep me busy and avoid curling up in a ball in the dark. I would look around the interent/your community for things like VFW parties, Lions Club dinners, Moose lodge gatherings, etc. Try to remember when your alone your not the only one. There are lots of people out there in need of some companship and holiday cheer. Take care.

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 11/17/2011 - 2:02pm

I would go to one of the "child free by choice" websites and start up a companionship there. Get ideas on what they do for the holidays. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who have decided to abandon ship when it comes to these bioparents and their unending enabling.

I love my biochildren (grown) but I'll tell you what; parenting is HELL (done the right way) done the LAZY ASS WAY it comes back to bite you like nobody's business. If I had my druthers I would have easily been one of those "child free by choice" people b/c I don't believe in free ranging children. And today, if you DON'T free range your child, the gov't authorities are on your tail for "abuse."