SS13 has been lying, lying, lying about weird, various things since early summer. All the talking, and/or punishing in the world hasn't changed one damn thing. He calls his BM a fucking bitch and he walks all over her. When he is here, he just lies about very stupid things. His MO is to start crying when you bring it up to him, and try getting him to talk about it and discuss WHY he feels he needs to do this, and the result of his crying is getting his parents to feel sorry for him and it gets him OUT of things (i.e. having to go to therapy)

In the past, his BM has been SO concerned about him fighting with his little brother, SO concerned that she has wanted to bring him to therapy! For the most normal thing boys do!! But NOW, when DH is ready to bring him in to a therapist for who specializes in teenage boys, she is saying "NO" !! ?? wtf. She said she thinks she and DH should go first, and just learn how to discipline him better and control him better! But they need to get him to open up, and discuss WHY he feels the need to do this... NOT punish him more and more. We have not seen ANY positive results in doing what we've been doing- So therapy is always a good place to start to help find a solution.
And BM is dead-set on not bringing him to therapy now. She has to be out of her f'ing mind!

This kid just KEEPS getting his way, which is probably WHY he has ended up in this position to begin with! She is so ridiculous. This complete horse-shit. I am tired of his lying and even more tired of the punishment crap that doesn't get ANY positive results. What is her damn problem.