I find this disturbing that your husband thinks it was ok to tell his daughter she should come to him if she wanted to smoke pot (regardless of age). I'm curious why your only concern is whether he was going to discuss it with BM. I would be going after him for not telling his daughter the dangers of doing drugs.

You can't explain to a pot head that smoking is a bad thing. I guess he wants to be the one to smoke with her to make sure she is "safe" as possible and not hanging out with kids that may encourage her to do other things or engage in other behaviors. He wants to be the one to bond with her in that way.

I was a pot head for 18 years, didnt see anything wrong with it. I dont smoke anymore for health resons and other reasons. Even if I was still smoking I would NOT want my kids smoking or doing anything with anyone!!!!!! Just cuz I could handle being a pot head doesnt mean they can. If it was up to me, I would want my kids to all be squares and scared to try anything illegal or bad for their health.

After I stopped smoking I realized just how much kids emmulate their parents and I realized I didnt want them doing what I was doing. That is another reason I cut it out. THey are getting older and I dont want them to think its okay to do any drugs at all, no matter how "harmless" it seems.

I think your hubby should discourage any drug use at all. You never know how impressionable your child is and how the drugs will affect them. they may become addicted or strung out on other harsher drugs. Not worth it. And if BM finds out, yes you can count on her reporting him to authorities.

He just handed everything to bm on a silver platter.

This is one of those situations where I think, "maybe the bm was spot on about the dh."

He better pray that bm doesn't learn of this. If she does, he won't be seeing those kids for a LONG time and will be making some buddies in prison.

Dumb daddy move.

Exh told our DD the same she responded "I'm not interested in it, not now not ever. I've seen how important YOU make it and I prefer really friends to "business associates" that is when it hit him she says that his friends, the "friends he chose over being a husband and parent are NOT friends, they'd all be gone the moment he stopped sell and smoking with them. He has no drive, short term memory loss etc from years of chronic use, and it's also why I have sole custody. He was given a choice quit and 50/50 or not and I get sole.

What Daddy should do is get a course off the internet about how to teach children the dangers of marijuana/alcohol/opiate drugs and tell her the honest truth about each of them. Then tell her that he knows he cannot be with her every minute of the day to make sure she doesn't do something immature (don't use the word stupid) and that now that she has the facts its now up to her to decide how she wants to live or ruin her life. Note that very few school districts adequately address this issue just like they fail miserably in sex education.

I had to chuckle at Grace who commented above about how she quite after 20 years of pot use and that she handled her pot use so well. But the facts she stated were she quit only after health issues forced her to quit (i.e. addicted) and didn't elaborate on how those issues were brought on or exacerbated by pot use.

I knew a chick who's mom told her that about COCAINE. Can you imagine?!

This will get your DH put in prison and he will lose any interace he has with his daughter.

Not the sharpest tool in the parental shed is he? :jawdrop:

Father of the year for sure. NOT.