I just need to vent.

Manipulative sd15 started coming around the past few weeks. About 4 times in 3 weeks, Of course disney/guilty dad is convinced that "She's coming around" and things are so much better ETC, besides the fact that she said she cut herself lat week bc she's so depressed etc. Honestly I think she was lying for attention and I know it's a serious issue but there was not a mark found on her. It's just drama with her non-stop.

Anyways, FDh gave her money last week and this week she hit him up again "could I have some $"???

I'm SO frustrated bc FDH doesn't see the game, he gives her all the credit and she's really warming up and coming around blah blah blah. NO FDH, she knows she needs to put in a few hours with you to get the cash she wants. She was supposed to come over, he said no to extra cash, guess who never showed up?!

"But it's not bc of the $, it's bc we were at the store and weren't home right when SHE wanted to come". IT'S SO FUCKING FRUSTRATING!!!!!!

Another issue?

My BD8-almost 9, she's been awful. My child is acting like there is a demon in her or something. She's lying about everything. Sneaking everything, crying at the drop of a dime about everything. I'm so frustrated with her too. She's not doing great in school (not focused and way too social), doesn't listen to me and tries to be mean to me by saying things that aren't nice. She pushes and pushes our buttons until we are a bout to lose it. She's been grounded with no tv, no nintendo, no playing with friends until she can get her act together at school.

She's been in therapy for 2 years, and we started her on a low dose anti anxiety ( have increased dosage over time but she's still pretty low) and non stimulant adhd medication the beginning of the school year. Things were getting better- not perfect but much better. She's in after school activities and has love and support from both FDH and I. She's the only child in the house right now, so she's not even competing for attention with anyone else. Even if brat SD15 is around it's for a few hours thats it and BD8 enjoys it- most of the time

She's been showing extreme jealousy with FDH and I and we have dealt with this in family therapy a few times together as well over the past few years. She wakes up in the middle of the night and wanders around the house in the dark and gets into EVERYTHING. We have locked doors that can be locked, we have an alarm, we put everything up we can and she still manages to get into or be sneaky about something.

The child is not sleeping- She's on melatonin bc I don't want her on prescription sleeping meds, I already don't like the fact thats she's on medication but at our wits end we didn't know what else to do. She is conniving, she starts lies between people to get reactions and get everyone fighting and she literally sits backs back and watches it all go down with a smirk on her face.

I feel awful saying this about MY child but she's acting evil. She's ruined my day before we even leave the house in the morning bc of her attitude and lack of respect. People can judge me if they want to but I have literally tried everything I can think of and what the psychiatrists and therapists have suggested. FDH and I have thought about switching therapists but thats also something I want to be careful on bc we need to keep consistancy and if I keep switching the people she supposed to trust and open up too, therapy is going to be worthless. I have tried reward programs, being calm and letting her know my expectations, sending her to her room with no toys in there either, taking her favorite things away, grounding, spanking, popped her in the mouth, going to bed early, loss of all privileges etc. strict daily routine.

It's so easy for people to say "oh, she's not doing this right or her kid wouldn't act like that- I used to be like that too until MY child started acting like the devils spawn and you could beat her (never would- and I'm using a figure of speech) and it would make no difference.

I want my child to have a good childhood and after some of these consequences she's good for maybe a litttle bit from a few hours to a few days and as soon as she earns her privileges back she starts getting worse again. I don't want to be a nazi parent and right now she has lost everything and she doesnt care. We are putting a hook lock on the outside of her door to keep her from wandering in the middle of the night and I never wanted to lock her in her room- I feel like it's abusive or something. I'm seriously so stressed out and frustrated with her and I don't know what to do.

FDH and I are both upset and with my daughter acting this way he excuses SD15's behavior bc BD8 makes SD15 look better. Oh yea, and FDH's kids never did anything wrong when they were 8, they awere good kids and never snuck or lied about anything.......

Thanks for reading, and if you have any experience or advice in dealing with any of the crap I'm open to anything. I feel extremely vulnerable writing this about my own kid, but I'm not going to pretend she's being an angel just bc I can't stand my steps!