SM with custody
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I hate being the SM but to the child I am the mommy. He is a sweet boy most of time. But he is disabilities due to the fact BM could quit drugs and alcohol. What's really sad is that we have never had a DNA test and my husband found out BM was hooking to get drug money. It pisses me off my husband refuses a DNA test! I want one! I don't believe 100% my son is his. I feel I would feel better about it if he was NOT the father! Then he wouldn't have that connection with the BM. SS looks just like BM and BM has a daughter from years before my hubby dated her and SS looks the exact same as her.... Is it wrong to hope the child is not biologically his? And why would that make me feel better?
you could take some hair out
you could take some hair out of his comb and run it without him knowing. http://www.hairdnatest.com/
Thing is, even if the DNA
Thing is, even if the DNA test came back negative it might make nno difference to your partner. Being a mother myself to a 2 year old I think if I found out I wasn't the mother (impossibility, lol) id still see him as my own. And its not really fair to his "son" to have a father one minute and then not another due to no fault of his own. Also, if you find out he isn't the father but he still wants to beinvolved in his life the you're going to resent the situation even more knowing you're going through all that crap for a non biological kid.
Yeah you really want to piss
Yeah you really want to piss him off run some hair DNA. Look he has decided he is committed to this kid and all you can do is ruin that for him. I can't think of a quicker way of getting tossed out.
Since you cannot accept a previous child as a part of your relationship with a man I strongly suggest you find a man who has no children. Listen I'm finding no blame or shame here. You're reactions are quite normal but to go against them for the next few decades is just silly. If you have children with this guy they're going to suffer from the constant drama and struggle that is going to surround this relationship, the boy, his mother and father.
For everyones sake and most especially your own you should find a guy who is childless.
Sad thing. We already have a
Sad thing. We already have a son together. The other one was in foster care when we got together. The is no BM in the picture. I actually do very well at faking my situation everyday. It's just inside myself I feel this way.
That's even worse if there's
That's even worse if there's no BM in the picture, he's going to be left with no one if test comes back negative.