SD told CPS that i beat her.......
Last week i had sd brush her teeth in the morning before school when she didnt want to, so she threw a huge fit hitting herself in the head and throwing herself to the floor so i gave her a quick swat on the but. Then she went off to school where she decided to tell the teacher that i had hit her numerous times then threw her into her bed where she hit her head, and that i told her that i hated her and i want her to live with her mother. So later that day i had CPS at my door accusing me of abusing her. later that night my DH asked her why she told all those lies and she told him bc it made her feel good to get me in trouble. Shes been having alot of behavioral problems especially with being violent towards other children and animals. Im expecting our first baby this fall and im soooooooo worried that shell do something to the baby if she doesnt get her way. DH and i have been toying with the idea of her living with her mother instead which i really hope happens bc i hate her sooooo much, i dont think i would be able to stay married to my hubby if he decides he wants to keep her. im sooo confused about everything.
This little girl is having
This little girl is having issues with the new baby on its way, I am sure. Get her into therapy if she's not already and try to figure out her problems. She is emotionally distraught about whatever might be happening in her life. Maybe she wants to live with her mother. Sometimes kids do things, like telling lies, because deep down they want something to happen, but they are afraid to come right out and say what they want. Acting out is a way to get people to listen when you don't want to come right out and say "I want to live with my Mom".
If a child made those type of
If a child made those type of allegations on me I'd refuse to be alone with the child. You don't need CPS breathing down your neck or losing your own child over allegations of child abuse. If this was my situation husband would be carting his child everywhere he went so I wouldn't be put in a position of being accused again. I'd also make him pay for babysitters outside the home, this child is out of hand and needs to be reeled in fast. Take away her tv, computer, or whatever it is she like most until she can be civil. I'd be very afraid of bringing a baby around her.
Yes...never be alone with her
Yes...never be alone with her again and completely disengage other than basic needs.
Every time i tell him that
Every time i tell him that she is his responsibility he freaks out, he says that they are a package deal, and i shouldnt treat her like she's and outcast....UH HELLO SHER CALLED CPS ON ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! of course i dont want to responsible for her!
"A Package Deal"- you have to
"A Package Deal"- you have to love THAT classic deflection!
Look, your DH clearly has his head in the sand on this one. Sd needs to be in therapy, like other posters said, YESTERDAY. By calling CPS on you, she is putting you and your child at risk. Is your DH willing to sacrifice that "package"?
He's being very immature. You have EVERY right not to want to be int the same room with this child until he seriously addresses this issue. I would put my foot down on this one BEFORE the baby comes-
Either HE is 100% responsible for her while SD is receiving therapy or BM is. But YOU will not be.
I feel for you on this one.