I need some advice on a gentle way to break to hubby that SD5 is going to suffer with regards to relationship with other family members b/c of BM's behavior. DH is traveling abroad for work. He is upset that his sister did not call BM to invite SD to her son's bday party. His stance is regardless of how his sister feels about BM, she should have called and invited SD to bday party. The reason sister did not invite SD was b/c she did not want to deal with any of BM's antics. His feelings are hurt b/c he feels that everyone is taking their hatred of BM out on SD. Unfortunately, there is some truth to that. SD is typically not invited to any family fucntions when DH is away. He is the only one that is willing to take what BM dishes out for the sake of spending time with SD. I told him that from my point of view, his family members are unwilling to risk BM ruining a family occassion for everyone else just for the sake of SD5's attendance. I could hear the hurt in his voice and I know I came off as insensitive. i am not sure how else to explain it.