So yeh... this isn't my first rodeo... I have been married before with stepkids but they were very little... the boys were 3 and 2 at the time I married my ex. This is a whole new game. I now have 2 bio kids (4 and 6) and then I have guardianship of my 10 yr old former SS... so I really have 3 kids. Now I'm in a serious relationship with my SO who has 3 girls... OMG... all girls... :jawdrop: Heaven help me. They are 15, 13, and 11.

A little background... SO and I have known each other for years and just started a relationship in the last year while he was deployed (we are both full time Army National Guard). When he got home the girls were very excited about me and the relationship. They have been to my house, played with my kids, and pushed for us to be more serious. They told him all the time they loved me and wanted us to be together and wanted us to get married. As soon as SO moved in with me, though (which I resisted but they and he pushed for), they flipped a switch and didn't want to come over, didn't want to go to church with us, didn't want to be around the kids... WTF??? So we didn't see them for Christmas so I put my foot down and said no visit means no presents that I worked my tail off to pay for. Last week the youngest girl came to SO and said the other girls had pushed her to stay away from SO and I and she didn't want to anymore.. she missed us and wanted to be around us and asked for the next kid weekend with us! YAY!!! So she's here now.. first weekend with her. The other two have shown zero interest and at this point I don't care. It hurt at first but I have SD11 here so I'm happy. We had the best relationship of the girls from the start anyways

Well, I slipped a minute ago when I found out that their BM was letting the girls watch Friends with Benefits with SD15's 17 yo boyfriend with no parent there. I didn't realize SD11 was still in the room and looked at SO and said "Is it just a free for all over there now?" (before BM was an absent parent for the most part.. she'd hide in her room and barely acknowledge the girls). SD11 heard me and slumped off and SO went after her.. she said basically that me and SO think her mom is a bad mom. Well, that's true but I never intended to let HER think we felt that way. SHe certainly shouldn't have to think that anyone thinks that about her mother no matter what the truth is... so SO explained to her that we were just saying we were concerned because of the adult content in that movie and the fact that SD15 was watching it with her BF which is another story in itself.

So anyways.. I need some good luck to get through this weekend!!! OMG, I'm going to lose my mind. Sadly my 10 yo is the one driving me the most nuts LOL (he is Aspergers). Lets just hope I can be more careful about paying attention to who is listening for the next 2 days!!!!