Ha. So true. I just get more pissed bc SO even called his parents and his ex to see if they knew what was up with his sister and they were shocked at what she had done. His ex LIKES ME and knows how much I care about the girls and she is the one that actually picked the CS amount and SO agreed to it bc she doesn't have a job and he wants to take care of his girls. But he and I are evil regardless to some people apparently.

The thing I can't figure out is exactly what his sister wanted him to do. Hand bm all his money again? Not be with a woman that has kids (he's nearly 40... Chances of that are slim)? Be in a cheap apartment paying bills separately from mine and have less than he has now which is pretty much nothing? With what BM gets plus her crappy part time job she makes more than I do a month. Her house payment is less than my rent. She chooses to have a house phone on top of everyone having cell phones. She chooses to have a large tv service package that costs way more than mine. She chooses to add internet to her cell bill instead of her tv service which costs more. Her utilities are not much different than mine and she doesn't have some bills I have. She has ways to reduce her bills if she is struggling... I don't see how her poor choices mean we should go without and that my kids should be eating ramen every night? The crazy thing is BM is not even complaining! HIS sister is the only one and she was livid.

Oh if she comes to my home again she will for dang sure be meeting my city's finest and the Barney Brigade as I like to call them. Would not be a good move for her. She almost had it last night but I let SO handle it... This time. When I realized who she was at the door, my first instinct even with how rude she was to me, was to protect her bc I honestly thought "omg, her crack addict husband is back on it and did something bad to her/her boys"... Silly me.

HIS biological sister. Same mom and dad. Raised together. He has another sister too but this is the one he has always said he was closest to. The other one I have always thought I will get along with better.

The other part that gets me is her 2nd baby daddy used to do stuff like this to her and she would worry about how it would affect her kids. Guess my kids don't matter as much, huh? She sure is lucky none of them heard her angrily say that he loves them more than the girls and spends more time with them. He spends more time w them bc I have my hids full time. It's not bc we don't want the girls. And how would the kids have felt hearing that he loves them and is good to them put so negatively????

Just to be clear, I do not personally talk to BM. I feel it's not my place. This is not my first rodeo and in the last one the BM and I started off friends and ended up mortal enemies.. learned my lesson on that and having a H that won't stand up for me against family so I'm HYPER sensitive to it (exH's parents accused me of child abuse, of trying to take ODS away from them, of all kinds of crazy stuff)... this wasn't the case here. He's been my advocate from day 1 with his family and with BM. BM tried at the very beginning to bash me and learned fast he would not stand for it and ever since has been very nice and helpful and accepting of me. I don't agree with everything she does with the girls, but we get along and he and BM are getting along well right now. SO's parents already know me and know what I'm about and his mother praises me for being such a good mother and hard worker and my kids for being so well behaved and intelligent.

Immediately after his sister stormed off, he called his parents to find out if they had been saying or thinking what she said. His dad was stumped (and his parents talk about EVERYTHING). They know EVERYTHING and are supportive of him and of him being with me. His mom has known me since before I ever met SO.... she has known me since my 10 yr old was in her preschool's 4 year old class. His dad was stumped by what happened. He then called BM who kept repeating "am I hearing you correctly?? Your SISTER did WHAT??" and was genuinely surprised (if she had been involved she would have dodged and said she had something to do or something like she always does when she has done something wrong)... and so SO and BM sat and discussed every point his sister attempted to make. BM says it sounds like she has overheard bits and pieces of conversation and taken them completely out of context and put her own spin on it based on her own life and then threw it back at SO b/c she's miserable with her own life. Everything she brought had some small grain of truth but was spun completely incorrectly... like the kids being in a bar thing. BM packed up the girls stuff to go to those events and was completely supportive of those trips.. SO asked his sister if she had never taken her kids in Applebee's.. b/c last he checked there is a bar in there too. We weren't feeding the kids pina coladas or doing tequila shots while they watched The Goonies. Geezus.

He is calling his mother today about what happened. She wasn't home when he talked to his dad and she is going to be furious when she finds out her daughter did that with my kids there.

As far as the bills, it's a non-issue between he and I.. he is doing a lot and still paying her over what guidelines say and I respect how he is doing it and was a party to all decisions regarding the use of his money. I want the girls taken care of and for her to have enough money to pay her bills. Mine are getting paid. If she chooses not to use the money wisely, that's her problem. It's there. She needs to get a damn job but for now it is what it is. (I was tired and angry and chose my words incorrectly when I said "make me pay his bills".... that's not how i meant it to come out LOL... I was still seeing red)

I'm not defending myself.. I'm just here to vent b/c it pissed me off so bad LOL. SO has already said we will call the police immediately if she comes back on my property at all.