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Family Wedding Plans Gone To ****

AJouney's picture

We planned on attending my bf's cousin's wedding this weekend. It will be a Shi Lankan wedding. Shopping was fun, but pricey. We all bought the proper attire and the girls (6&4) are very excited to go to the their first wedding. They absolutely love their princess dresses. We are all matching as well. Oh what fun, until today.

My baby got a text from his ex saying that she has plans, and we can not have the girls. :jawdrop:
He if piping mad right now. I have never seen him so angry with her. She was aware weeks ago. She always asked for him to spend more time with them. When we can, we do. What is going on in her head?

My advice to him is to play it two ways. One way is to pretend he didn't get the text and move forward. Speak the the girls everyday as always as if the plans are the same. In other words, play stupid until the very end. Let her break the news to the girls. Let her explain why they can't come. The oldest will never forget this and she will have to live with that. Secondly, he could inform the kids that they can not come and we will be taking the dresses and shoes back to the store. The will be very upset and emotional. The mother will need to deal with this. If she had a problem with it...she should have said no. We would never have put them through all of this.

I does not make sense to keep these Saree's and shoes that they will never wear again.

What would your advice be on this matter?

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oneoffour's picture

Is it her time? Does he have a text/email from her agreeing to the plan? IS there a CO outlining custody/parenting time?

See, I have a problem with a g/f wearing matching outfits with her b/friends daughters.
And 2 little girls go running back to their mother telling her all about the shopping trip and how they are ALL wearing matching outfits....I would cut that cord as well.

If he has the opportunity via a Court Order to claim this time he should do so. if he hasn't anything in writing... he is out of luck. If his ex has legal and physical custody she calls the shots. And turning the girls on their mother is not a smart move.
If they are with her most of the time she WILL maker this your fault.

MamaFox's picture

Sarees are ethnic dresses and they all look VERY similar in cut, so I think when the OP says matching outfits, that's what she means. I don't think this is a SM PASing these girls.

Midwest Stepmom's picture

No matter what you do or say BM will convince the skids that it's dh fault that they cannot attend. Even if you sit them down and explain the real truth. Good luck!