So here's the whole truth. Tell me down or cheer me up I just don't know what to do right now.
When I first met my now DH he had a job that paid him about 3k a month with commission. He was paying 600 for child support. Over time, the job lowered the commission. By the time we were dating he was earning 1500 a month before taxes.. and after child support and taxes he only had like 300-600 a month and his car payment is 400..
So since his custody was every other weekend and some Thursdays, he said he couldn't get a job that would let him not work weekends (he only had HS diploma)...
So stupid me was like let me help you and I took on a job that paid over 4k a month but it was over 60 hrs a week easy.
I did this for one year while he quit his job and got a real estate license. After he got it, he spent 2 months figuring out a brokerage who also asked for 1k to start with. After another 3 months and no client I was like wtf... come to find out he was just sitting on his butt waiting for clients when this brokerage did not provide leads. Spent another 500 on trulia and other websites to get leads. Still another 4 months went by NO INCOME. Guess who was paying HIS child support?
I then realized my daughter had no guidance and no one to rly teach her anything (I was spending less than 30 mins every other day with her and somehow was told everything was fine). My daughter did not trust me at all nor did she like me and I had full custody of her.
So then I thought I'm sacrificing all my daughters time, energy and effort so this other guy (my husband) can smile and talk to his kids every other weekend for a few hrs. Mind you, after working my full week if the kids were here, he would not get up to feed them. He would not bathe them unless I did.... and on top of it all he said I didn't love him if after standing for 9 hrs + on my feet I was tired to have sex!!
So I was like you know what? This isn't right. I quit my job and I handed him all the bills. I said you figure it out, I gotta teach my daughter that water isn't scary.
He had to get a job at the same place I worked and now he only sees his kids every Sunday.
For the last month or so, he began to ignore my daughter. Like she will literally go running to the door and say hiiiii bubba (she called him once dad but his son 7 told her he will never be her dad and since then she has stopped) and he will literally act like she isn't there. He doesn't respond at all to her unless his kids are here and then he kinda says hello........
I've been like soooooo supportive with his kids, I've even had to comfort his son and tell him we all love him one time when his dad got all pissed and slapped him with a stick. ...
Other than this, he is always sweet and nice to me... but he wasn't when I was working so much... idk.... am I a nut job? Can you guys bring up any clues I'm not seeing that are wrong? ? Thanks.... at this point I'm like f^ck this guy.... and f^ck his kids and ex and MIL... :*(
But it's like why can't u just acknowledge my daughter like at all... all I can think of is that he's pissed I'm making him work....