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Steppedonnomore's picture

Submitted by Steppedonnomore on Fri, 06/15/2018 - 2:29pm

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ExDH and I still see one another but I am beyond disengaged from former adult SS.   I asked ExDH if he wanted to get together this Saturday.  He told me that since he had to work Sunday, SS wanted to celebrate Father's Day on Saturday.  I said, "Great. Have fun!" Today ExDH says that SS has made other plans Saturday but ExDH hopes that he will want to go to dinner to celebrate Father's Day.  ExDH wants to know if I am still interested in doing something.  I told him that I was sorry but that, when he told me he was busy Saturday, I made other plans.  ExD admitted that SS didn't make plans with him but that he was just hoping that it would happen.  Now he is having a pity party and I feel bad for him but he set himself up for this fall.

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Submitted by Blue Moon on Fri, 06/15/2018 - 2:55pm

I'm sorry, but what an idiot. Glad he's you Ex. Now you don't have to go through that unless you choose to.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Fri, 06/15/2018 - 5:30pm

Don't feel sorry for him. Recognize that this is all his doing and that you are a second class citizen to his adult child. He knows that he can get away with putting you second and expect you to jump when he decides it's convient.

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Submitted by sandye21 on Fri, 06/15/2018 - 5:45pm

This is a life ExDH chose - when he made his choice he wasn't feeling sad for you.  No pity for self-inflicted wounds. 

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Submitted by bedazzled on Fri, 06/15/2018 - 8:03pm

Looks like Karma is coming around to bite him. He will be chasing his kids affection til the day he dies.His choice.