My ex-dh and I are really good friends.... I know my posts probably seem confusing to some becuase on one hand you always hear me complaining about bs's dad and then other posts say I get along so well with ex-dh and his wife.... SOOOOO....just to clarify, my bs's dad is an idiot, manipulative, jealous, freak.... I hate him, I hate his crazy jealous wife and they need to move away to an island of freaks and never return....

Then theres my dd's daddy... my ex-dh. He is wonderful. He is a great person, his long time gf is wonderful, she is an amazing sm and we all get along great.

So, here is my question/problem....

My bf is jealous of my great relationship with my ex (he would probably say he isn't but I'm not stupid)... and I get it.... I probably wouldn't like it if bf got along 'that' well with is ex or spoke so lovingly about his ex.... so I get it.... Its just that I truly look at my ex as a family member.... its hard to remember ever 'being' with him like that beause I love and care for him like you would for a cousin or even a brother.... but not romantically... anyway... a mutual friend of ours commited suicide this past weekend.... I had to be the one to break the news to my ex and my ex-mil.... my ex is devastated and I am worried about him. I have been talking to ex-mil almost daily about it and have been checking on my ex daily in case he needs someone to talk to.... I feel an obligation to be there because I get where hes comming from... the guy (kid really) that commited suicide was a huge part of our life at the same time and we share the same memories with him and honestly, that time in life was one of the best in our lives (so carefree and light) and I share that time in life with my ex-dh as well as with the guy that killed himself.... I feel like I should be there if he needs me....

BF thinks he should turn to his mom or his gf or his friends and that I shouldn't be worried about how hes doing.... Hes angry with me and I know it but I don't know what to say to him.... I know how how I feel about my ex (and trust me bf has no need to feel threatened by him) but I also know how I would feel if I were bf and if I'm honest with myself I can see his point and I can see why my relationship with my ex bothers him....

Not only that but bf does not think its necessary that I go the the celebration of life that is on Saturday.... He thinks that because I haven't seen the guy in a few years I don't need to go that its really more just like a reunion of all the old clan.... which really it is.... wer're all comming together again to celebrate this man's life and I don't see what he doesn't get about that....

We did have plans to go take my bs to long beach this weekend and bf doesn't think I should interupt our plans.... I don't even know what to say about it.... I get what hes saying and did go back and forth on whether or not I was going to attend the celebration of life but I really feel like I should go....

Any thoughts?