SS went to far
Need to talk with someone because DH still doesnt get it!!!
To make long story real short, SS was staying out back of house at our shop,my husband and self were going out so asked SS to leave while we were gone, He got mad and then said he needed money, my DH said no and SS then flipped out ttok a knife out, told his dad he would stab him, runs up to the house and that little son of a b!?!? smashes the rear window of my new honda my husband just bought me, havent even made 1 payment yet, then takes off towards the creek. Of course called police they did find him DH said he did want to press charges and off to jail he goes, but wait it gets better. Not 3 hrs later he's calling his dad to bail him out!!! R U kiddin me! DH said NO! So court day is near and DH gets a call from DA
to find out about what DH would like to happen to SS and god almighty my DH wants :sick: to drop charges. WHAT!!!Well Im not taking this crap I called DA told him to tell judge I want a restaining order for myself and our daughters, DA said judge might not go for it as Dh did not want one. So lets see what judge rules so everyone that reads this please cross fingers
DH doesnt know I called DA, but he will find out, some one has to do something about that SS beacuse dad wont.
I would think just because DH
I would think just because DH doesn't want to press charges doesn't mean you can't. I would if I were in your position. Also I would try the restraining order. He acted way out of line, I mean a knife!!! breaking your window out!!! I would at least try to fight it. I would want the same as you, a restraining order to protect myself and my kids. How old is he?
Hope things go in your favor. Hugs!
This is quite the dilemma. DH
This is quite the dilemma. DH wants to save his kid BUT this kid NEEDS some tough love. Personally, I would press charges of my own. Your car was damaged so it's only right that YOU have the final say. I'm sure DH won't be happy about it so tread carefully. Totally bad and downright scary behavior. Please keep us posted as this continues to unfold. Best wishes to you.
Future felon?? I think he's
Future felon?? I think he's already crossed that line - just hasn't been convicted yet.
Yes OP YOU should press charges. I guarantee you will be sorry if you don't.
Call the victims advocacy
Call the victims advocacy group at the court house. They will help assign someone to represent you and talk to the DA for you.
Sounds like a druggie to me.
Sounds like a druggie to me. They would shoot their own grandmother for money. Hope you can get action taken!
I agree with Towanda^^^^^ My
I agree with Towanda^^^^^
My bad SD19 that I am disengaged from, used to and still does flip out like this on many occasions and she is into drugs. Always needing money, not working, mooching off of people constantly.
I would also kick him out, there is no reason he cant get a job (just assuming he doesn't have one) and get his own place or maybe go and live with BM. You need a break from him. Deciding to finally after 4 years of hell with SD19 decided to disengage completely from her and no contact, my life is getting happier and happier. DH has to get on board with you though, my DH is also disengaged from SD19. He actually was done with her before I was (I am the try and save them type).
Anyways hope DH gets on board with you and like I said above, you can press charges, you don't need DH to do that. Things cant be good with him living there anyways if you want him gone when you guys go somewhere.
Sorry I keep posting but I
Sorry I keep posting but I went and read some of your other forums. I feel so sorry for you, hugs!
I am not trying to be hard here, ok maybe I am, DH NEEDS TO STOP ENABLELING HIS 33 YEAR OLD SON!!!!!!!!!!!
You do not deserve this. You sound like you go through with this son what I go through with my SD19 who is headed up the same path as your SS. DH needs to get on board like my DH did and let him go. You have your bios to worry about now. Just like I do. I have a SD22 (who is awesome), SD19 druggie (disengaged from), Bio DD8 and BioDD3. There is an age gap in our kids too and they do get affected by this too.
Have you any proof that SS is maybe into drugs? He sounds like it. This is very typical behavior of a person into drugs. DH needs to let him go and he does need to get charged. He is an adult and not newly an adult. He knows better and should have never done this to you or your family.
I agree with the other
I agree with the other posters - YOU press charges. YOU get the restraining order. How far does this violent behavior have to go before your DH sees the light? With DH back-peddling, I wouldn't trust him to ensure you are your kids are portected. The next time may be WAY too far, and someone is going to get hurt.
Thank you all so much for the
Thank you all so much for the feed back and have taken everything in that each and everyone said, the DA said that i was not the one who SS pulled knife out on so,I cant press charges for that, but can get reimbursed for my window, but what good will that do! He would ask dad for money to pay(because of course he has no job)So restraining order for me and our girls and vandalizing my property
The DA said they are all felonys, and yes he has been in and out of prison an ex felon. SS still writes his dad letter's askin for money on his book can you believe that!!?? Does DH put money on books for him well if so he sure doesnt tell me?? HMMM
Thanks again everyone, you all are the best!!!