So here is the story my dh and I have been together for almost four years. married for three years. Dh had a son right before we got together but never saw him because bm wasnt sure he was the bd and didnt want to get a test done to see. bm finds out we are having a dd and starts contacting dh and telling him he can see ss dh is excited of course and sees ss for the first time when he is 9 months. I have dd and bm calls out of the bluse and says she will give ss to the state if we dont take him so we do. He shows signs of being mistresated then she shows up a month later and takes ss back we cannot stop her because we didnt have any rights to ss. bm refuses contact or cs for him until 8 months later when bm calls and says the same thing so we get ss and papers from her giving us custody. once again bm trys to take him back and we go to court bm tells judge she should have never had ss and then insists we have ss beacuse dh wants to be with bm we get sole custody and bm goes crazy bm sends me emails describing her and dh relationship in explicit detail, prank calls my phone at all hours throws rocks at my house,has her friends call and email and harass me saying dh is cheating on me bm posts all these poems about how she still loves dh and wants him back she never mentions ss and really dosnt seem to care what happens to ss. I am tired of her trying to ruin my life she somehow manages to get around the restaining order what can i do that dosnt end up with me beating down bm she is pushing me and as someone who can kick ass I need to figure something else out help! I dont want to be responsible for putting bm in the hosptial!