It has been awhile since I have posted. I am attending college now. It has been a positve diversion for me. My step daughter and I have not spoken since she moved out. Now to understand this I will elaborate further. This is my second marriage. It is his 3rd. She is 26. We have been married a little over 6 years. He is a good man. He has allowed his children to run over him all their life since their mom passed away. The children from his previous marriage and his 2 children and I got along great at first. We both had good jobs and since retired. His daughter is very mildly autistic to the point you would not realize it nless you spent ample time around her. I treated her just like one of my own. I had never had a daughter mine are all boys. I enjoyed having a girl to do gurly stuff with. The only difference between SD and other girls is she started displying harmful behaviors. I sat back waiting for her dad to do something. She would display very inappropriate sexual behaviors like sending naked pictures over the phone and actually being very forward as to touch them. My son would ask me to please make her leave his friends alone if they were over visiting. He was uncomfortable with it. Also there was an age difference of 8 years between them. So these were much younger boys. I finally spoke to my husband and told him she was taking my sons phone and getting phone numbers from it and sending naked pictures to his friends. He actually has a good relationship with my husband and talks openly about things. We decided to block data on her phone. I would try and talk to her and to my face she would appear sweet and hug mebut i started noticing she was going behind my back and making up stories to her half siblings and her brother causing arguements and actual threats towards me.It's hard to explain but she has like 2 personalities one good and one evil. She is on disability. Since we had good jobs I suggested putting money back for her. Once we retired we had to use the allotted support allowed to him to help take care of her medical bills and what not. She did not like that and blamed me. Of course I made sure she kept her portion so she could feel like other young people and maybe browse the shops and shop once in a while, or get a new music cd if she wanted. I never wanted her to feel different. I always encouaged her. She bagan taking control by putting wedges between my husband and me.I sought counciling and had to be put on medication for depression. I am still with a councilor. She wanted her own apartment and I told my husband she has to learn to live on her own for when he is not around. But he hesitated taking action. She eventually came to me and asked me to set up an appointment for her that her dad was stressing her out. Now I was happy to do this for no one had ever addressed her disability with a proffesional before.The doctor put her on some medicine that they normally do in cases like this to help her think better and control her mood swings. I did not realize that she was going to use this as her way out.She told her siblings I forced her to go to a Dr, and take medicine. They all came down on me and even threatened me. My husband did not defend me as he should have. He never showed her any consequences for her actions. Her step sister immediately moved her into her home. I was actually relieved.I was beginning to build anger up inside and started having panic attacks. Almost 2 years has passed since she moved out. We did not speak at all. She blamed me for her having to move out but when in actuality she wanted her own place so she could do what she wanted but would never actually tell the truth about it. Last week she attemted to break the ice and I actually thought, ok this is good. I tried to commend her on how well she was doing. She, through social security is taking art classes at the college I attend. I told her I see her outside painting and would like to stop and view her art.I did so. We talked for alost an hour about art and what she wanted to take next. She wanted to learn to sketch so I offered to print offf thenet some techniques on how to draw facial features. We hugged and I told her goodbye and said I'll get some material together for you. I actually felt good inside after so long.The next morning her father got a text saying she wanted nothing to do with us. I feel her step sister is behind it. He was devastated and actually went to her apt. She told him go away and leave her alone. He has texted her demanding to know what is wrong. He too feels the same about the cause. I explained i feel like a whipping post and it is creating issues mentally for me. I love him and have been in counciling for 5 years now trying to cope with this. He finally started counciling a year ago realizing our marriage was disintergrating.She called him last nite and told him she loved him but wants nothing to do with me. He finally defended me and told her this is my wife you owe us both an apology and until you do so I think it best we do not speak. It is a hard situation. I feel bad for him but I told him I do not think she will stop until she figures out a way to cause us to divorce. he is assuring me he is not going to allow it so I guess we will see how this pans out. I do understand her condition I have a sister with the same disability. They do display erradic behaviors and no one is getting her the proper help. There are specialists who deal with this. We have taken my sister and she is on medication and doing much better. But I made sure to find a specialist who deals with this type of problem as I did for my SD when she asked me for help. I told my husband I hope he sticks to his guns on this because if she does'nt learn there are consequence for her actions she will not change and I do know she knows right from wrong.