You know when your new husband or wife or SO decide to get married or just live together we never imagine what the downside of it all can be. We are in love . And boy is love blind. I find we have to be half step parent and half physcologist. Skids are extremely smart and manipulative as so our children can be. In my case my son and I moved into his home. This made me and my son vulnerable and in a bad position. My son is a good boy and was much younger. He has good feelings for people in general and was afraid to speak to step dad not wanting to cause friction. I had patience and tried to develope a relationship that would work. I knew I was'nt their mom I would have been happy to just be friends. His daughter saw me as a threat, very jealous. I assured her I did not want to take her dad away from her but I love him. I explained a father daughter love is different from a husband wife love. I said" We have a new family, a little different true, But at least now you have another woman around to do things with and i have a girl to do girl stuff with." At first it was great until we moved out of my apt. and into his home. In the city she was happy. Lots to do she would walk to the strip mall and browse in the stores and met people. There was a nice pool so we would go swimming and spend time poolside after i got home from work. Here in his home we are in the boonies. She changed her feelings towards me so fast It hurt me at first. My husband and I could not even be intimate when we wanted. She would always find a must see show for them. Having to get up early I would fall aslleep. this went on for 2 years. He kept promising me he would go to counciling with me. I had already had to be put on meds for depression. I don't know about any of you guys but I don't want to have to be awakened at night in order to have sex with my husband. In fact a situation arose today and I asked him. " Why did you let me go to bed alone every night for 2 years?" I told him when we met it was the most special time in my whole life. He was fun, spontanious and made me feel like his princess and he my prince. I told him you reversed everything now SD gets treated like your princess and I feel like cinderella. Our anniversary was 2 days ago, 6 years. I must confess it feels like 20, so sad. I told him I don't know how much longer I can hang on to a memory. He tells me how much he loves me but in my mind I am already thinking it may be over soon. Unless through therapy that spark reignites. I pray for it to.